1. Basics of Biblical Counseling Lesson 9 Sexual Sin

2. VIII. Sexual Sin

3. A. The Bible and Sexual Sin 1.Verses a.1 Corinthians 6:18 b.Galatians 5:19-21 c.Ephesians 5:3-5 d.Colossians 3:5-6 e.1 Thessalonians 5:3 2.Examples a.Tamar – Genesis 38:1-24 b.David – 2 Samuel 11 c.Solomon – 1 Kings 11:3

4. B. Types of Sexual Sin 1.Adultery (Lev. 20:10, Heb. 13:4, Prov. 6:30-35) 2.Immorality or Fornication (1 Cor. 6:15, Deut. 22:21, 23:17) 3.Homosexuality (Gen. 19:1-29, Rom. 1:24-32) 4.Incest (Lev. 18:6-17, 20:14, 5.Bestiality (Ex. 22:19, Lev. 18:23) 6.Mental Immorality (Voyeurism, Pornography, Masturbation) – (1 Cor. 6:9, Phil. 2:3) 7.Exhibitionism (Gen. 9:22) 8.Sexual Child Abuse (Deut. 22:24) 9.Rape (Deut. 22:24, Judges 19:24, 20:3-4, 12) 10.Prostitution (Lev. 19:29, 20:5-6, 1 Cor. 6:9) 11.Transvestitism and Transsexualism (Deut. 22:5)

5. C. Definition of Sexual Sin A selfish, idolatrous desire to gratify self by engaging in thoughts, words, or actions of a sexual nature that God has forbidden

6. D. Biblical View of Sex 1.Sex was created by God and is therefore pure and holy within marriage (Gen. 1:27, 31, 2:18, 21-23, Heb. 13:4) 2.Sex is not the basis for marriage, but it is a key element of marriage (1 Cor. 7:3-5) 3.The primary goal of the sexual relationship is giving – providing satisfaction for the spouse (1 Cor 7:3-5, Prov. 5:18)

7. D. Biblical View of Sex 4.Each husband and wife has a God-given ability and duty to satisfy his or her spouse (1 Cor. 7:3-4) 5.God encourages the pleasure of sex in marriage, not just the procreative aspect (Prov. 5:18-19, Song. 4 & 7, 1 Cor. 7:3-4) 6.Sexual relations are to be regular and reciprocal (1 Cor. 7:5)

8. E. Principles for Dealing with Sexual Sin 1.Recognize that sexual sin does not satisfy (Prov. 5:3-6, 6:24-29, 7:18, 21) 2.Confess the sin to God and seek His forgiveness (1 John 1:9) 3.Confess the sin to anyone sinned against and seek their forgiveness (Luke 17:3-4) 4.Repent (Rom. 12:1-2, Eph. 4:22-24) 5.Apply the principle of radical amputation (Matt. 5:29-30, Rom. 13:14)

9. E. Principles for Dealing with Sexual Sin 6.Deal with the lusts, lies, and idols of the heart (James 1:14-15, Rom. 1:18ff) 7.Replace sinful lust with a biblical view of love and sex 8.Study the character of God – especially His omnipresence and omniscience (Prov. 5:21) 9.Establish accountability relationships (Heb. 3:12- 13, Prov. 27:17, Ecc. 4:9-10, James 5:16) 10.Be active in serving and ministering to others (Eph. 4:12-13) 11.Establish a specific plan for dealing with temptation

10. F. Specific Areas for Biblical Study 1.The goal in life (1 Thes. 4:3, 2 Cor. 5:9, 1 Cor. 10:31) 2.Self-control (1 Tim. 4:7-8, Rom. 6:12, 1 Thes. 4:4) 3.Relationships (1 Thes. 4:6, Rom. 16:17-18, Phil. 2:3-4) 4.Thought life (Prov. 4:23, Rom. 12:1-2, Phil. 4:8) 5.Eye control (Job 31:1, Prov. 4:25, Ps. 101:3, Matt. 6:22-23)

11. F. Specific Areas for Biblical Study 6.Influence of friends (Prov. 5:9-11, 13:20-21, 22:24-25, 27:17, 1 Cor. 15:33) 7.Circumstance control (Rom. 13:14, 1 Thes. 5:22, 2 Tim. 2:22)

12. G. Resources Josh Harris, Sex is Not the Problem, Lust Is (formerly titled, Not Even a Hint) Steve Gallagher, At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry Steve Gallagher, A Biblical Guide to Counseling the Sexual Addict Steve Gallagher, The Walk of Repentance Mike Cleveland, Pure Freedom: Breaking the Addiction to Pornography Robert Daniels, The War Within: Gaining Victory in the Battle for Sexual Purity Ed Wheat, Intended for Pleasure CCEF booklets

13. Homework Read chapters 17-18 in the textbook Memorize 1 Thessalonians 4:3