1. LESSON 8 Understanding and Dealing With Anger and Rage In the Structured Environment Peer Mediation as an Intervention Strategy Under Construction

2. The Raging Person can not communicate the reason for the rage nor work toward solutions. The Person Being Raged At shuts the Rager out & carries away enduring resentment and distrust. Nothing is accomplished but a more hardened polarization for the future and a greater likelihood for intense, repeated instances of rage. BLIND RAGE A STAND OFF. NOTHING IS SETTLED. AN INNER POLARIZATION INCREASES. Hurt, despair, and frustration INHIBITED RAGE COOL AGGRAVATION CYCLE OF INCREASINGLY DANGEROUS VIOLENCE

3. Under the Supervision of Monitors of Behavior, Acting Out Behavior Can be Suppressed 1. 2. PRO SOCIAL ROLES IN A STRUCTURED ENVIRONMENT WITH GUIDANCE AND TRAINING LEAD TO EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATING ANGER. BLIN D RAGE A STAND OFF. NOTHING IS SETTLED. AN INNER POLARIZATION INCREASES. The Raging Person can not communicate the reason for the rage nor work toward solutions. The Person Being Raged At shuts the Rager out and carries away enduring resentment and distrust. Nothing is accomplished but a more hardened polarization for the future and a greater likelihood for more repeated and intense instances of rage. Hurt, despair, and frustration In an Unstructured Environment, There is Nothing to Prevent Acting Out ANGER THIS IS THE WAY I FEEL. WELL, THIS IS THE WAY I FEEL MAYBE WE CAN WORK SOMETHING OUT 3. COOL AGGRAVATION INHIBITED RAGE CHANNELED BEHAVIOR IN THE STRUCTURED COMMUNITY ENVIRONMENT

4. I have a pro-social role. I’m somebody. I have a responsibility I have to live up to! Hey, Wimp! What’s the little sissy up to today? Your Mommy dress you for tea with the ladies? Ha! Ha!Ha! Now that he has a Pro-Social role, he has self esteem, he perceives himself and the world differently. It is important for him to be a model and be pro-active rather than reactive, as in the past. He is proud of his self control and skill in handling these provocative situations. PRO-SOCIAL ROLES DEVELOP THE PERSONALITY AND CHARACTER

5. I’m going to rip your heart out for what you did! BLIND RAGE BLIND RAGE I hate you! I’m officially a mediator. I can help them settle this. Hey, guys, I can see you both are really anger with each other. Let me listen to both sides. Maybe we can find a way to settle this. Would you like for me to try to serve as your mediator? How about just giving it a try? THE PRO-SOCIAL ROLE CAN SETTLE DOWN THE CONFLICTS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD

6. BLIND RAGE BLIND RAGE OK, lets take it one step at a time. First, A, you say what you feel, how you see things, and what you want. Then I will restate it to make sure we all understood what you said in the same way. Then B, you say what you feel, how you see things, and what you want. Then I will restate what you said to make sure we all understood what you feel, how you see things, and what you want. Then we will continue doing that until we can reach some common understanding and some agreement that you both can feel reasonably satisfied with. I will not take sides nor will I make the agreement for you. Is that understood? Hey, now that we have both expressed our feelings, cleared things up, and I understand you and now that you understand me, I feel like we could really be friends! Hey, now that we have both expressed our feelings, cleared things up, and I understand you and now that you understand me, I feel like we could really be friends! A B A B Looks like they have grown in stature! Coaching in Mediation and Its Results