1. Copy these vocabulary words into your notebook. 1.apothegm (a' pə them) N. a short, instructive saying The apothegm "it takes two to tango" makes a lot of sense. 2.badinage (ba də näzh') N. light, playful conversation; banter Barbara's badinage with Steve when they bumped into each other at the music store was the prelude to their first date. 3.colloquy (kä' lə kwe) N. a conversation or dialogue, especially on a serious subject The professors in the math department hosted a quarterly colloquy to discuss new research. ENGLISH 4 WARM UP MARCH 21, 2012

2. Write a paragraph about your views about dating and marriage. Think about what characteristics you are looking for in a future wife or husband. How long should you date or how old should you be before getting engaged? Who does the asking? Do you include parents? How long should you be engaged before getting married? What kind of wedding to you envision? Will both of you have rings? Who pays for it? Who pays for the honeymoon?

3. by Oscar Wilde Take notes; **You only need to copy slide titles and what is underlined.

4. Named after Queen Victoria of England Movement ran from mid-1830’s to 1901. Marked the height of Industrial Revolution in America. Victorians wanted tradition, ritual, and regularity Synonym for “prude”; extreme repression…..even furniture legs had to be concealed under heavy cloth not to be “suggestive” VICTORIAN PERIOD (1833-1901 )

5. Separate public and private self Public life may adhere to routine while the privately one may make a habit of “going underground”….to London’s Red Light District. APPEARANCES WERE EVERYTHING!

6. Victorians saw themselves as progressing morally and intellectually. Powerful middle class obsessed with “gentility, decorum”=“prudery/Victorianism” APPEARANCES WERE EVERYTHING!

7. Derived from old French verb estiquer, which means “to attach.” ETIQUETTE

8. Specific rules of social interaction following them showed class and proper upbringing ETIQUETTE

9. 1.Never addressed (talked to) a gentlemen without introduction. Never offered her hand when introduced to a man, merely bowed politely Never walked alone, but with a preferably older, married chaperone. RULES FOR WOMEN

10. 2.Did not call on an unmarried gentleman at his home. No impure conversations! RULES FOR WOMEN

11. 3.As a guest in a home, women had to be introduced every time they entered a room with men. If a woman left the room, she had to be re-introduced! RULES FOR WOMEN

12. 4.Men were only received at woman’s home when a family member was present. Intelligence or interest in politics were not encouraged. RULES FOR WOMEN

13. 5.Women flirted with men using their fans. There was a secret code between young people. Fan fast – I am independent. Fan slow – I am engaged. Fan with right hand in front of face. – Come on, follow me. Fan with left hand in front of face. – Leave me. Fan open and shut. – Kiss me. Fan open wide. – Love. RULES FOR WOMEN

14. 5.Women flirted with men using their fans. There was a secret code between young people. Fan half open. – Friendship. Fan shut. – Hate. Fan swinging. – Can I see you home? Drawing fan across forehead. – We are watched. Letting fan rest on right cheek. – Yes. Letting fan rest on left cheek. – No. RULES FOR WOMEN

15. 6.Women did not approach men they did not know unless they were introduced either by another friend or a mutual friend. If a man approached a woman, she would respond with a slight nod of the head. RULES FOR WOMEN

16. 7.Never allow her skirts to drag upon the walk to annoyance of other pedestrians. When crossing the street, she must raise dress a bit above ankle while holding dress in right hand. RULES FOR WOMEN

17. 8.Eye another lady’s dress Look back at anyone who passed her. Be rude or dress to attract attention. RULES FOR WOMEN

18. 1.Never swears (cusses) or talks uproariously. Never picks his nose! Never picks his teeth nor scratches his head. Never smokes or spits upon the walk. Never stares at anyone. RULES FOR GENTLEMEN IN PUBLIC

19. 2.Never dresses in an odd manner, so as to create remark. 3.Always raises his hat politely to a lady acquaintance or to a male friend walking with a lady. RULES FOR GENTLEMEN IN PUBLIC

20. RULES FOR CALLING CARDS 1.Calling cards were used to announce your presence. Cards were delivered on a special tray (salver) to the person or left on the mantle.

21. RULES FOR CALLING CARDS 2.Ladies of the house were required to return the call of their visitors either in person or by letter. 3.A proper call generally lasted only 15 minutes.

22. RULES FOR CALLING CARDS 4.Women could acknowledge the advances of their suitors by returning their cards to them. If she kept it that meant “she’s just not that into you!”

23. RULES FOR TEA 1.Very important and expensive commodity It was reserved for only very important guests!

24. 2.Light refreshments should always be served. Tea biscuits, muffins, cake, thin slices of bread and butter, or chocolate ice cream. RULES FOR TEA

25. 3.Sugar was expensive. It was kept locked up with the tea. Women wore the key to the tea cabinets on their belts.

26. RULES FOR DINNER 1.There should always be an equal number of women and men at the table. Otherwise, your table would be “put out.”

27. RULES FOR DINNER 2.Guests should be spaced two feet apart when seated at the table. This ensured no inappropriate contact between guests.

28. RULES FOR DINNER 3.Loud talkers should be near the center of the table so everyone can hear them.

29. RULES FOR THE BALLROOM 1.A lady or gentleman should finish their toilet before entering the room for dancing. It is indecent to be pulling on your gloves or brushing your hair when re-entering the room.

30. RULES FOR THE BALLROOM 2.If you do not know the steps to the dance, it is proper to refuse the request of the gentleman. This keeps people from bumping into each other or stepping on each other’s toes!

31. RULES FOR THE BALLROOM 3.A lady should not attend a public ball without an escort, promenade the room alone; in fact, no lady should be left unattended. If you see a group of friends across the room, ask your escort to walk you across the room in order to speak with them!

32. RULES FOR ENGAGEMENT 1.Courting would last from 6 months to 2 years before actual marriage. 2.Families analyzed genealogy, bank accounts, and political connections before considering engagement just to make sure that they were marrying into the “right kind” of people.

33. RULES FOR ENGAGEMENT 3.Proposals were generally made in person using clear, distinct language, so the woman would not misunderstand. She didn’t have to accept the first time either; she could play coy!

34. RULES FOR ENGAGEMENT 4.After engagement, couples could hold hands and take carriage rides with each other, but at nightfall they had to be separated. If the woman did not follow all the rules, the engagement could be broken and she would be labeled as a spinster and remain unmarried for the rest of her life!

35. Illegal to marry a deceased wife’s sister. 1.Encouraged to marry within same social class. 2.Man had to prove he could provide a future. Woman had to have a dowry. MARRIAGE

36. 3.People did not marry for love; marriage was considered a business. If marriage was broken, it had to be done by letter! All presents and letters given had to accompany the letter. MARRIAGE

37. BIOGRAPHY

38. Born in Dublin, Ireland Lived majority of life in London Excelled in classical literature OSCAR WILDE -BIOGRAPHY

39. Mother and father were morally questionable Mother was revolutionary and brilliant writer Had a younger sister who died Kept her picture and a lock of her hair around his neck OSCAR WILDE -BIOGRAPHY

40. Published first set of poems, Poems, in 1881. Lectured in America in 1881 Originally scheduled for 120 days but he liked it so much he stayed for 260 Met with Walt Whitman and Henry Longfellow

41. In 1884, at age 30, he married Constance Lloyd who was 26 1891- published The Picture of Dorian Gray, his only novel and his most successful piece of work OSCAR WILDE -BIOGRAPHY

42. Sent to prison for gross indecency (acts of homosexuality) for two years of hard labor Divorced by his wife, the last few years of his left were spent wandering around Europe 1900 in Paris, died from Meningitis brought on from an ear infection in 1900