2. Except in cases that involved abuse, parents and/or children who have experienced forced separation from one another, including cases of parental alienation, are highly subject to post- traumatic stress. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

3. The quality of the parent-child relationship is often compromised when a parent feels left out because of their non- residential parental status, but also in situations where the parent feels overwhelmed due to having to assume all parental responsibilities. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

4. In most cases, the role of the father in the life of his child has been involuntarily lowered to being nothing but a financial provider, rather than an active caregiver, by our family courts, social service systems, and in many instances, the mother of the child. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

5. Heartfelt relationships are sustained and developed through an emotional connectedness; made possible through the emotional stability and security of fair and equal parenting time. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

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8. Potential causes of these differences include socio-economic status, religion, education, personality type, family size, culture, parental history, and religion. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

9. Having the father perform a self-evaluation to determine his preferred style of parenting is a great place to begin. This also establishes etiology and a starting point for a service plan, or dialogue. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

10. Teach fathers to embrace their individualism; learning that their traits set them apart from anyone else. What he brings into the family is what shapes and defines the family; making it distinct from other families. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

11. Observing father-child-mother interaction during visits, telephone calls, and written correspondence will enable development of an effective approach toward increasing the quantity, and improving the quality of these relationships. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

12. 8-Relationship Improving Suggestions In the institution, establish a library of varied aged books to be used during visits and/or phone calls. If the book is purchased outside of the institution, a copy should be made for the father to have on hand during engagement. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

13. Establish a child-friendly environment in the institution’s visiting area. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

14. Encourage fathers to alternate phone calls between the mother/caregiver and the child, or commit the first ten minutes of every call to speaking with the child. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

15. For institutional staff, make fatherhood part of the discussion; ultimately part of the service plan. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

16. For family members, significant others, and friends, encourage the mother to abstain from lengthy conversations, and those which deviate from improving the father-child relationship. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

17. Encourage fathers to immediately embrace the child before all other visiting members. This embrace should also be a time when the father verbalizes his affection for the child i.e., “I love you.”, “I missed you.” “I am so glad you came to visit me.” FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

18. There should always be a task given at the end of each engagement (visit, call) that will be followed-up on at the next engagement. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS

19. Always keep your word. Always be honest about the situation. FATHER TIME: Improving the Quality of Father- Child Engagement During Incarceration www.daddysrighthere.net Sabir Alim, MHS