1. Dynamics of Hope Rabbi H. Rafael Goldstein, Chaplain

2. The Book of Ruth

3. Gotta Love That Ruth!

4. Hebrew Lesson Naomi Naomi na’im, pleasant Ruth Ruth re’ut, friendship/loyalty

5. even if it is standing right next to you. When despair is the experience, you can’t see hope,

6. Ruth and Boaz have a kid: Obed Obed is the father of Jesse Obed is the father of Jesse Jesse is the father of King David Jesse is the father of King David King David is the ancestor of the Messiah King David is the ancestor of the Messiah

7. From despair, hope grows. Hope is the only alternative to despair Hope is the only alternative to despair.

8. Hope changes, shifts in all directions.

9. There is no such thing as a hopeless situation. Only a situation in which people have lost track of what they can hope for.

10. Hope doesn’t have to be for physical recovery, cure, or resolution. Hope can be establishing goals, thoughts, anything to lead to something better.

11. Our job is to expand the horizons of hope.

12. Where is God?

13. What is God’s job description?

14. God provides: Strength Strength Courage Courage Wisdom Wisdom Support Support Encouragement Encouragement Hope Hope

15. God is not the local ATM

16. We are supposed to do what God wants, not try to make God do what we want. God ≠ God ≠ Magic

17. Prayer is reflexive: It is supposed to move us to achieve the goals we want God to do for us by magic.

18. The natural order of the world Disease and disaster happen

19. People are supposed to help God complete creation.

20. We don’t have to like the reality of being human. But once we begin to accept our own humanity with some humility, we can then deal with hope, within the natural order of the world.

21. Definition of Hope An expectation that somehow, something good will happen. An expectation that somehow, something good will happen. Some belief that we have some control or influence. Some belief that we have some control or influence.

22. Dr. Jerome Groopman The Anatomy of Hope

23. Hope comes in five qualities: Hope is clear-eyed False hope/true hope Everyone has the right to hope Step by step Hope is undying

24. Hope is clear-eyed False hope/true hope Everyone has the right to hope Step by step Hope is undying

25. Hope is clear-eyed: His goals were simple: to get through each day finding something good, some reason to live, some basis for feeling the blessings that remain in his life.

26. Hope comes in five qualities: Hope is clear-eyed False hope/true hope Everyone has the right to hope Step by step Hope is undying

27. We do people a great disservice when we say that it’s less natural for a parents to bury a child. Reality is, it is just as natural. People die at all ages, as we all know too well. By saying that it’s not in the natural order of the world, we deny the reality and the possibility that people can find comfort among other people for whom the natural order of the world has been particularly brutal. We do people a great disservice when we say that it’s less natural for a parents to bury a child. Reality is, it is just as natural. People die at all ages, as we all know too well. By saying that it’s not in the natural order of the world, we deny the reality and the possibility that people can find comfort among other people for whom the natural order of the world has been particularly brutal. False hope/ true hope:

28. Hope comes in five qualities: Hope is clear-eyed False hope/true hope Everyone has the right to hope Step by step Hope is undying

29. His denial was all he had left, and he was clinging to denial as hard as he could. Sometimes denial is a good coping mechanism. Everyone has the right to hope:

30. Hope comes in five qualities: Hope is clear-eyed False hope/true hope Everyone has the right to hope Step by step Hope is undying

31. Step by step: Accomplishing one thing at a time, recognizing that each step is an act of faith and hope.

32. Hope comes in five qualities: Hope is clear-eyed False hope/true hope Everyone has the right to hope Step by step Hope is undying

33. Dr. Elizabeth Kubler Ross: Five stages of bereavement or of dying Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance

34. Rabbi Goldstein’s 6 th stage: gratitude, thankfulness

35. Hope comes in five qualities: Hope is clear-eyed False hope/true hope Everyone has the right to hope Step by step Hope is undying

36. Hope is undying: Hope continues, changes, moves, and has so little to do with predicted outcomes. Hope doesn’t die; it is passed along to people who survive us.

37. The world was created so we could be free thinkers and doers. But God is not going to do our jobs for us, or bail us out when we screw up, or step in when illnesses or tragedies develop that we weren’t expecting.

38. Hope never dies, never goes away, is passed along.

39. Hope and prayer are realistic, accepting the natural order of the world.

40. What can you hope for? What’s real and what’s appropriate: less pain and suffering, increased strength, appetite,courage, increased ability to share, talk and connect with the world, peace and comfort, less to worry about, a release from tension fear or anger.

41. Comfort in the world to come That loved ones find daily reminders of their relationships and the good times they shared Greater awareness of God’s love and support

42. God, grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

43. Pandora’s Box was filled with human blessings. They all escaped, except one. Hope.

44. May we all find ways to pass hope along, share it, and help ourselves and others move from darkness to light, from despair to hope.

45. Sources: Niles Goldstein. Lost Souls: Finding Hope in the Heart of Darkness. Bell Tower, New York, 2002. Jerome Groopman, The Anatomy of Hope: How to Prevail in the Face of Illness. Random House, New York, 2004. Estelle Frankel. Sacred Therapy: Jewish Spiritual Teachings on Emotional Healing and Inner Wholeness. Shambala Press, Boston, 2003. Rabbi Maurice Lamm, The Power of Hope: The One Essential of Life and Love. Rawson Associates, New York 1995. Andrew Lester. Hope in Pastoral Care and Counseling. Westminster John Know Press, London, 1995. © H. R. Goldstein, BCC 2005 All Rights Reserved