1. Lesson 12 Identify several healthy ways to cope with loss or grief. Why do you think feelings of loss and grief intensify during holidays? Look at page 125. Answer questions 1 & 2 after analyzing the graph.

2. Death and Dying Is it wrong to think about death? Why?

3. Does everyone live to an old age? Has anything happened recently?

4. Where do we hear about death on a daily basis? Can we be sheltered from death until we are old?

5. Questions Who has to deal with loss or death?

6. Where can you get help? Children And Grief | American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry Children And Grief | American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry Welcome to the American Counseling Association Welcome to the American Counseling Association Home - American Hospice Foundation GriefNet - A Community of Persons Dealing With Grief, Death, and Major Loss@griefnet.org GriefNet - A Community of Persons Dealing With Grief, Death, and Major Loss@griefnet.org

7. More websites mental illness, mental health information center mental illness, mental health information center

8. What are the stages of death? Denial – not me Anger- what did I do to deserve this? Bargaining- please if I just do…. Depression Acceptance Not linear or sequential Based on study of people who were dying

9. Stages of Grief 1.Denial, shock, disbelief 2.Despair, numbness, guilt, sadness 3.Recovery and resolution

10. We are all survivors of loss Job Love relationship Friendship A role Reputation Connection to our past

11. What causes the most grief? Loss of a close relationship  More intense reaction One of the best ways to cope is by telling our story so that we integrate the loss in a new way. We don’t get over the loss, we find a different “place” for it.

12. Symptoms Sporadic thoughts Behavior changes Tightness of throat Shortness of breath Sick to stomach Insomnia Change in appetite/ weight loss irritable Anxiety Fear Confusion Preoccupation with loss Sadness Guilt Anger crying

13. Grief- reaction to loss Triggers of Grief  Scents  Music  Holidays  Mourning- process a bereaved person integrates loss into life  Bereavement- event of a loss

14. What does death mean? Heart stopped Brain stopped Breathing stopped What about persistent vegetative state?

15. Promote Mental and Emotional Health Express feelings in a healthy way Engage in activities that are mentally and emotionally healthy Prevent and manage conflict and stress in healthy ways Use self-control and impulse-control strategies to promote health

16. Promote Mental and Emotional Health Seek help for troublesome feelings Be empathetic toward others Carry out personal responsibilities Establish and maintain healthy relationships