2.  Leadership is inspiring and helping people to work toward a goal. …Leadership is an Influence Relationship How can I lead others if I haven’t learned how to lead myself? What is Leadership?

3. What to eat for breakfast? What to wear today? What road to take to school/ work? What courses to take for fall semester? What to do if I’m not doing well in class? What major to pursue? What career pattern to follow? What kind of life do I want to build for myself? Leadership

4. ~If I like someone, how do I tell them? ~If I don’t like what someone is doing to me, how do I tell them? Relationship basedRelationship based

5. What movie to see? What car to buy? What shampoo to buy? What food to eat? What music to listen to? We are confronted with so many options in life that we can become confused, give up deciding (leading ourselves) & engage in behavior based on impulses alone. This is NOT Leadership. In fact, our society creates many problem- solving or leadership opportunities

6. Seeks attention Picks the brains of others & pirates their ideas Is stubborn for emotional or self-centered reasons Flits from idea to idea making many starts but few completions Perceives disagreement as a personal affront Is zealous to stay in the limelight Prefers the attention getting Is often manipulative in human relations Gravitates to the showy and bizarre Is interested in grinding his/ her own ax The Pretender

7. The Leader Seeks to improve operation Listens to his/ her own drummer Has firm convictions based on evidence as he/ she perceives it Sticks with an idea or proposal until it is completed Dislikes disagreement but can cope with it Is zealous for his/ her ideas~ projects Prefers complexity Possesses adequate communication skills to enhance mutual understanding Gravitates to the solid & substantial Is genuinely interested in improving the operation

8. The Pie of Self Interests Like it NeedsFulfillment ValuesSatisfaction SkillsSuccess

9. Multiple Intelligence Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

10. Interpersonal- Interpersonal- Capacities to discern and respond appropriately to the moods, motivations, and desires of other people. Intrapersonal- Intrapersonal- Access to one’s own feelings and the ability to discriminate among them and draw upon them to guide behavior.

11. Emotions Conventional vs. High-Performance Meaning

12. Conventional Sign of weakness No place in business Avoid emotions Confuse Table them Avoid emotional people Pay attention only to thoughts Use non-emotional words Interfere with good judgment Distract us Sign of vulnerability Obstruct, slow down reasoning Form a barrier to control Weaken fixed attitudes Inhibit the flow of objective data Complicate management planning Undermine authority

13. High-performance Sign of strength Essential in business Emotions trigger learning Explicate (clarify) Integrate them Seek out emotional people Listen for the emotion in Use of emotional words Essential to good judgment Motivate us Make us real and alive Enhance, speed up reasoning Build trust and connection Activate ethical values Provide vital information and feedback Spark creativity and innovation Generate influence without authority

14. Purpose and meaning are the inner compass of your life and work ~ They are the emotionally charged path in your work/ life that provides orientation/ direction. Without an inner compass you cannot lead yourself.

15. Your purpose is the internal compass to guide your life and work.

16. What is your unique purpose/ potential?  It’s a Yearning. You’ll feel it- it pulls you or attracts you toward one activity over another like a magnet, although it’s not tied to glamour or arrogance.  It’s something that deeply satisfies you. You’ll get a “kick” out of doing it. This kind of satisfaction is rarely present when your skills or strengths are not.  The learning is easy. You catch on quickly and it feels exciting to learn.  You sense moments of flow. You feel this is something natural for you and you catch glimpses of yourself performing well in this talent area.

17. Self-knowledge Self Esteem Self Confidence Effective Leadership