Impact of Bullying ON THE STUDENT BULLYING: Students who bully their peers are more likely than others to have behavior problems or engage in rule breaking activities later. (NOT ALWAYS) ON THE BYSTANDERS: Students who see bullying may feel they are in an unsafe environment, making it difficult for them to learn. ON THE TARGET: Students who are bullied may experience low self-esteem, poor grades, and health problems.
Is my child being Bullied? Identifying the Signs: Seems afraid to go to school Avoidance of peers Nervousness Unexplained anger and resentment Feeling sick to avoid things Drop in grades Loss of appetite Trouble sleeping Unexplained cuts and bruises
Tips for Parents Addressing Bullying or Unkind Behavior Teach that hands and feet are NOT for hurting Explain the harmful effects mean words can have on others Explain the difference between “joking” and “bullying” Jokes are meant to be enjoyed by everyone, not hurtful to some. Bullying is hurtful and someone is the target.
Tips for Parents Helping Your Child Defend Against Unkind or Bullying Behavior Teach and PRACTICE Standing Up to Bullying or Teasing Behavior Looking the bully or teaser in the eye Speaking with Confidence Using the “DeBug System” Using an “I” message: I feel (emotion), when you state the problem. I want (what you need to happen.) Example: “I feel angry when you tease me about my clothes. I want you to stop! I like how I dress.”
Discussion Scenarios - Bullying I think your shirt is ugly You must be having a bad hair day Where did you get those horrible shoes? You are so dumb You stink at soccer Your family is poor Nobody likes you You walk funny
Who can you talk to if your child is being bullied? Your Child’s Teacher Your Child’s School Counselor (Mrs. Bullen) An Administrator (Ms. Bounet or Mr. Reich)
Teacher’s Role Keep a close eye on students in the classroom and address unkind behavior before it becomes bullying. Make sure students feel safe reporting unkind or bullying behavior. Make the students aware of the respectful school rules that have been established at Barcroft and in their classroom. Call the parent of the student who is bullying to get support. Notify parents that repeated acts will immediately be referred to guidance or administration.
Counselor’s Role Provide classroom lessons on bullying prevention and intervention to students, staff, and parents Allow student’s to report bullying as a target bystander, or bully Provide targets with options of how to handle the bullying: Practice strategies to safely stand up to the bully Talk to the bully Call the bully’s parent Talk to the bully’s teachers Refer the bully to the administration Follow-up checks to make sure the bullying has stopped.
Administration’s Role Allow students to report bullying as a target, bystander, or bully Talk to the parents of the bully and target Discipline action to the student who bullied (i.e. temporary loss of privilege or separation from peers) Talking to the bully’s teachers Follow up checks with target to make certain that the bullying has stopped
Practice and Teach Telling is NOT Tattling! Get Adult Help!