2. Is your behavior secretive? Is your behavior abusive to you or others? Is your behavior used to deaden painful feelings? Do you turn to a lower environment to pursue it? Do you feel guilt, remorse, or depression afterward? Have you ever thought that you needed help?

3. It promotes secrecy in your marriage that will undermine trust Provides an unrealistic expectation of a sexual relationship Can decrease sexual satisfaction within your marriage Frequent viewing of the dehumanization of women will affect how you treat your wife and daughters Pornography kills true emotional bonding with your spouse because you've spent that energy elsewhere Steals valuable time from your family

4. But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Ephesians 5:3 (NIV)

5. "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl” Job 31:1 (NIV)

6. "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28 (NIV)

7. Romans 7:15-25

8. I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate. But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good. So I am not the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it. And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.

9. I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. I love God’s law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.

10. 12 Step Groups Celebrate Recovery Accountability Partner Accountability Software Spiritual Accountability Honesty Openness Pursue Purity Discover the need that the fantasy is fulfilling

11. At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry by Steve Gallagher Out of the Shadows by David Carnes The Pornography Trap: Setting Pastors and Laypersons Free from Sexual Addiction by Mark R. Laaser Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave by Edward T. Welch Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn