2. A Godly Home Following God’s Wisdom

3. Introduction Proverbs 24:3-4 “Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established. By knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”

4. God’s Roles For Men Provide Fulfillment To Men A Man Provides For His Family Physically, emotionally & spiritually A Man Protects His Family “Saving” them from physical and spiritual dangers A Man Trains His Children Teaching them respect for God’s authority The Home As God Designed It

5. God’s Roles For Women Provide Fulfillment To Women She is her Husband’s Ultimate Comfort She is a Bearer of Children She is a Manager of the Home She is a Teacher of Younger Women She is a Worker of Kindness The Home As God Designed It

6. 1. We must choose a mate that will help us get to heaven. 1 Peter 3:7 This is the second greatest decision we will make for our home! Abraham knew this was important for Isaac. (Gen. 24:37-38) The Home As God Designed It

7.   To get out of current family problem   In love with the frills & thrills (i.e., the shower, ceremony, honeymoon, boost ego)   Want financial security   Peer pressure Wrong Reasons To Marry

8.   “For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it” (Lk. 14:28)   Have you counted the cost of your commitment to your spouse “...for better or worse...”? – –spouse paralyzed? – –bad accident and disfigured? – –gain weight, go bald Have You Counted the Cost?

9.   “For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it” (Lk. 14:28)   Have you calculated the commitment of your fiancé? – –what value system will he/she help teach children? – –what is his/her view concerning divorce? – –why does he/she love you? – –how committed is he/she to you if you are worse off? Have You Counted the Cost?

10. 1. 1.looking for the perfect person – –Eph. 4:2 2. 2.the perfect looking person – –Prov. 31:30 3. 3.good marriages are simply a matter of luck – –Psa. 25:15 Common Marriage Myths

11. 4. 4.I will marry someone who will make me happy – –no person can make you happy 100% of the time – –marriages have difficulties. Paul needed to warn husbands not to be bitter and wives to respect their husband (Col. 3:19; Eph. 5:33) – –marriage is not a “tick on dog relationship” Common Marriage Myths

12. 5. 5.I will change him/her – –some are attracted to another because of the challenge he/she presents Common Marriage Myths

13. “At times people become attracted to a person because that person presents a challenge. A wild boyfriend may be interesting and exciting when dating. But if a person does not demonstrate change prior to marriage, chances are they will not change after marriage. When you marry and have children you will 'desire' someone who can be responsible with money, who can hold down a job, who will help you with things around the house and with the children. The "excitement" caused by an immature mate WEARS OFF REALLY FAST. (Proverbs 12:4; 14:1; 19:13-14; 27:8).” www.beavertonchurchofchrist.net Notable Quote: Mark Dunagan

14. 6. 6.“It is better to live in a bad marriage than to live alone” – –“Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman” (Prov. 21:9) – –“Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman” (Prov. 21:19) Common Marriage Myths

15. 7. 7.There is a “quick fix” for any troubled marriage – –“quick fix” society - instant remedies – –doesn’t work with marriage problems can’t microwave a marriage to make it hot! marriage problems are linked to problems in people no one can “make” their mate change when lived, God’s word helps repair (1 Pet. 3:1-2) Common Marriage Myths

16. 2. The home built by God will major on discernment. Heb. 5:13-14; Prov. 1:7-9 There will be Bible study and discussion on dress, friends, entertainment, recreation, employment, education, and all important decisions. The Home As God Designed It

17. 3. We must eliminate things that would destroy the home. We must hate adultery and all illicit sensuality (Matt. 5:27-30; Prov. 11:29) Who we bring into our home in is important. (Psa. 101:6-8). Would we bring in poisonous snakes? Many have done so by becoming conformed to this world. Who comes in by our TV set? Internet? Movies? Music? Do we have a pilgrim's home? (Heb. 11:13- 16) The Home As God Designed It

18. 3. We must eliminate things that would destroy the home. We must eliminate strife, anger and bitterness. (Prov. 17:1; 21:9). It may be a so-called “tolerable sin,” but it is not so with God. This is one of the major reasons our children do not develop faith. It is a poisonous atmosphere that Satan does his best work in (Eph. 4:26-27). The first step to a godly home is being humbled in repentance (James 4:7-10). The Home As God Designed It

19. Joshua 24:14-15 4. There must be men who lead in the raising of their children. Joshua 24:14-15 In our culture husbands often make excuses so they can leave this to their wife. This is lazy, irresponsible and cowardly. The Home As God Designed It

20. Joshua 24:14-15 4. There must be men who lead in the raising of their children. Joshua 24:14-15 A young successful attorney said: “The greatest gift I ever received was a gift I got one Christmas when my dad gave me a small box. Inside was a note saying, ‘Son, this year I will give you 365 hours, an hour every day after dinner. It’s yours. We’ll talk about what you want to talk about, we’ll go where The Home As God Designed It

21. Joshua 24:15 4. There must be men who lead in the raising of their children. Joshua 24:15 A young successful attorney said: you want to go, play what you want to play. It will be your hour!’ My dad not only kept his promise, but every year he renewed it – and it’s the greatest gift I ever had in my life. I am the result of his time.” The Home As God Designed It

22. 5. There must be women who find fulfillment in the home. Prov. 14:1-2 What a godly work a mother can do when she prioritizes her God-given roles! Are you the meanest mother in the world? The Home As God Designed It

23. Will You Become A Christian? Hear The Gospel (Rom. 10:17) Believe in Jesus as the Son of God (John 8:24) Repent of Your Sins (Acts 17:30) Confess Jesus as the Son of God (Acts 8:37) Be Baptized for Forgiveness of Sins (Acts 2:38) Live Faithfully Until You Die (Rev. 2:10)