1. 9th Grade Health
Bullying

2. What is Bullying?
Physical or psychological intimidation that occurs repeatedly over time
Bullying can be overt (i.e., teasing, hitting, or stealing); boys are most often overt bullies
Bullying can be covert (i.e., spreading rumors or exclusion); girls are most often covert bullies

3. Bullying CAN - Involve physical violence or verbal abuse
Include damaging or stealing another individual’s possessions
Involve excluding people by encouraging others to not have anything to do with them; spreading rumors

4. Bullies
Bullies often come from homes that use physical punishment to discipline
Caregivers of bullies are typically uninvolved and lack warmth
Craving attention?
Children who bully are often defiant toward authority figures and are apt to break rules
This is not ALWAYS but OFTEN

5. Cyber Bullying Form of harassment using technology
- Text messages, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc.
It can sometimes be done anonymously – so you do not know who is doing it.
The best way to avoid cyber-bullying is to be careful with your personal information and what you do online. **Don't put your personal information in public online places!!!**

6. Protect YOUR Reputation
Is this a picture something I want EVERYONE to see? (Your parents, grandparents, teachers, law enforcement, college admission officers, human resource for possible job opportunity…etc.)
Any picture posted on the web can be downloaded by ANYONE and or copied or posted online FOREVER… it doesn’t go away…

7. Harassment Sexual Harassment
What is It?
What you can do if it happens to you?
How to avoid doing it?

8. Harassment What is HARASSMENT?
The act of annoying: annoyance, bothering, exasperation, irritation, pestering, provocation, vexation.

9. What to look for, learn, and understand…
Sexual Harassment
Unwanted Behavior
Hostile (Work) Environment
Quid Pro Quo Harassment

10. Sexual Harassment
The law defines Sexual Harassment as Sexual harassment is harassment or unwanted and unwelcome attention or behavior of a sexual nature.
It interferes with your life, and your ability to function at work, home, or at school
Sexual Harassment is Illegal and NEVER OK

11. Types of Sexual Harassment
QUID PRO QUO
(“This for That”)
Harassment for a favor
Harasser is usually an authority figure (POWER)
HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT
Unwelcomed sexual conduct, that limits a person’s performance in school or at work

12. Examples Non-Touch Touch Verbal-Name Calling Grabbing Threats Pushing
Jokes
Rumors
Comments about Bodies
Gestures
Looks
Leers
Written notes
Bathroom walls
Touch
Grabbing
Pushing
Cornering
Unwanted kissing
Rape
Rubbing up against someone
Tickling

13. Sexual Harassment vs. Flirting?
Legal OK
Wanted
Compliment
Feels Good
Two-Way
SEXUAL HARASSMENT:
Illegal
Never OK
Unwanted
Put Down
Feels Bad
One-Way

14. Who Gets to Decide?
The Person getting the attention always gets to decide.

15. Sexual harassment may include:
1. Sex role stereotyping which is demeaning and involves unequal treatment of an individual on the basis of that person's gender.
2. Gender abuse; which can be either visual or verbal, such as the display of demeaning posters, cartoons, nudity or offensive sexual jokes about gender.
3. Visual or verbal expressions about an individual which are sexual in nature.
Criminal touching or actions not involving touching but which are offensive to the extent that they visually or emotionally shock the conscience of a reasonable person.
Asking for sexual favors in exchange for job benefits.
Any unwelcome sexual behavior initiated by a supervisor, employee, volunteer or non-employee

16. Effects of Harassment Humiliation Emotional Distress
Poor school/job performance
Unpleasant school/work environment
Depression

17. What to do if you are harassed
Try ignoring them. Sometimes this is enough to let someone know that they have offended you, or that your are not interested in them.
If it continues, tell them to stop, warn them that if it continues, you will have to report the harassment. Is this easy to do? Would you need support? How or where would you get support?
If it continues, or they have been unable to confront the harasser, then they need to report. Who can you go to in school?
If it happens in a workplace, there are policies in place to report to supervisors or others in authority

18. How to Avoid Sexual Harassment
1. Talk to someone, such as a friend, parent, or trusted adult. It is important to confide in someone.
2. Avoid being alone with the harasser.
3. Say no so that others around you know what is happening.
4. Know your rights. Under the Civil Rights Act, sexual harassment is against the law.
5. Keep a dated, written record of all incidents.
6. Find out if others have been harassed and might be willing to come forward to confront the harasser.

19. It is illegal for any male or female employee to:
1. Make unwelcome sexual advances or requests for sexual favors or other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature.
2. Make submission to or rejection of sexual advances the basis for employment opportunities affecting employees.
3. Create an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work environment through unwanted conduct or communication of a sexual nature.
How can this be seen in your lives during school?

20. Sexting – Consequences

21. The Dangers of Sexting https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLlTGq3UH38
NJ Law: NJ recently passed a law that allows minors, who engage in “sexting”, to avoid prosecution under the State of New Jersey’s child pornography laws the first time they get caught. Under the new law, juveniles caught using their cell phones to send sexually explicit images will be required to attend a State sponsored educational program designed to educate the juveniles about the dangers of sending sexually explicit images.

22. New Jersey Endangering Welfare of Children Statute
It is a CRIME to:
Permit a child to engage in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of such an act if the person knows, has reason to know or intends that the prohibited act may be photographed, filmed, reproduced, or reconstructed in any manner, including on the Internet, or may be part of an exhibition or performance.
Photograph or film a child in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of such an act or who uses any device, including a computer, to reproduce or reconstruct the image of a child in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of such an act.
Knowingly receive for the purpose of selling or who knowingly sells, provides, transfers, publishes, distributes, circulates, exhibits, advertises, offers or agrees to offer, through any means, including the Internet, any visual image which depicts a child engaging in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of such an act
Knowingly possess or knowingly view any visual image which depicts a child engaging in a prohibited sexual act or in the simulation of such an act, including on the Internet.

23. Consequences
If convicted it can result in up to 10 years in prison and a fine of up to $150,000.
However, if you are convicted of possession of sexually explicit material you could face up to 18 months in jail and a fine.
If convicted, the offender will be registered as a sex offender

24. Why do people bully/harass others?
Children who are bullied are often insecure, socially isolated, anxious, and have low self-esteem
Target?
They are unlikely to defend themselves or retaliate
Some people believe that it is OK to bully people who are different from them.
- They may pick on people from minority groups, such as people with disabilities, people from different races and cultures, or people who are attracted to the same sex.
- They may pick on people who do not conform to stereotypes of what it is to be 'cool'
- They may pick on people who are different because they are smaller, quieter, brighter, have different values

25. Why do people bully/harass others?
Bullies often target people who seem vulnerable and less able to protect themselves.
Sometimes people have grown up with violence or harassment in their lives and have come to believe this is a normal way of relating to others.
The HARASSER has low self-esteem and this is their way of making themselves feel better.

26. The Bully vs Being Bullied Long-term Affect
Children can carry bullying behaviors into adulthood and experience difficulty in forming and maintaining relationships
Children who are bullied often experience low self-esteem and depression even into adulthood
Children who are bullied perceive school as an unsafe place and are likely to miss more days of school than their peers, as a result their education is negatively affected

27. WHAT CAN WE DO TO HELP PREVENT BULLYING OR BRING IT TO AN END?
In school
Cyber Bullying
WHAT DO YOU THINK WILL HELP/HURT?