1. The Miami Valley School November 29 th, 2012 Scott Ervin, M. Ed. www.askthekidwhisperer.com

2. Follow these easy steps! 1) Go brain dead 2) Use your one-liner 3) Do not attempt to think!!!! 4) Make an appointment

3. Love and Logic is a way of interacting with children that is easier than what you are doing now is less stressful gives you enormous power makes it unnecessary to yell gives you more time to cook/ read/watch TV/ play video games/ go the movies/ think makes it extremely difficult for kids to be non-compliant makes kids feel empowered and happy also works on your spouse

4. The self concept and dignity of both child and adult must be maintained at all costs. The child must feel that he has some control. The child must do more thinking than the teacher. After empathy is locked in, logical consequences are used instead of punishment.

5. Did my response maintain my own dignity and self concept as well as the dignity and self concept of the child? Did my response put the problem squarely on the shoulders of the child?

6. Kids exhibit behaviors that work for them.

7. If I argue long enough, I might get my way If I don’t get my way, arguing is still a good way to get an entertaining laser-light show of adult frustration and anger If I can control adults, I must be more powerful than adults Since I’m more powerful than adults, I don’t have to listen to them Being nasty is the best way to get what I want

8. When you argue with a child, YOU ARE BEING MANIPULATED!!!!

9. I know. Thanks for sharing. Probably so. Nice try. That’s an option. Hmmmmm. Bring the robot ruckus to me.