1. Matt Kendra Anne Carol Becky
Love and Logic
Matt
Kendra
Anne
Carol
Becky

2. “Norms” that teachers must address when forming a discipline plan…
Norm 1: Students have rights
Don’t let them feel like you are violating those rights
Norm 2: The future is not an extension of the past
Old management strategies that worked for your parents (or you!) don’t necessarily work now
Norm 3: “It’s not my fault!”
Some students may need to be taught how to place blame on the appropriate source

3. Norms Cont… Norm 4: Achievement determines worth
What we do is an extension of who we are, not what we are worth
Norm 5: I see, I want, I believe I deserve
Students are used to deserving privileges
Much more value in getting what you have earned

4. Common Myths of the Classroom…
Myth 1: Students must be warned in advance of the consequences for violating rules.
Specific consequences don’t deter students
Use fair, appropriate consequences in each situation
students can tell you if it isn’t fair
Myth 2: When students break the rules, consequences must follow immediately.
Time to cool down
Come up with appropriate consequences
Don’t put stress on yourself to deal immediately

5. Myths Cont…
Myth 3: It is not necessary for students to like their teachers. However they should respect them.
What would you do to shine for someone you love??
Perform for who you love—and if you don’t love yourself yet, perform for your teacher until you do

6. Purpose of Love and Logic
Puts Teachers In Control
Teachers wait to deal with misbehavior
Teaches Kids To Think For Themselves
Teachers question instead of talking
Students do the talking
Students come up with their own solutions
“The brain that does the thinking grows the dendrites”

7. Purpose Cont… Raises The Level Of Student Responsibility
Students take responsibility for their misbehavior and their learning
Student ownership
Prepares Kids To Function Effectively In A Society Filled With Temptations, Decisions, And Consequences
Students deal with problems as they would in the “real world”

8. Purpose Cont… Develops Better Relationships With Kids
Teachers are no longer the “bad guys”
Teachers and students are on closer levels
Leads to improved cooperation

9. The Three Rules of Love & Logic…
Use enforceable limits
Provide choices with limits
Applying consequences with empathy

10. Using Enforceable Limits…
Tell the kids how you run your life not how they run theirs
The students will have to make their own decisions and live with the consequences

11. Provide Choices w/ Limits…
Give two choices you like
Delivery is important
Give them ownership of their choice
Examples
Your welcome to _____ or _____.
Would you rather _____ or _____.

12. Wording (Changing Your Garbage to Gold)…
Unenforceable Statements
Open your books to page 54.
You can’t go to the restroom until I finish the directions.
Turn your assignment in on time or you’ll get a low grade.
Enforceable Statement
I’ll be working from page 54.
Feel free to go to the restroom when I’m not giving directions.
I give full credit for papers turned in on time.

13. Savings Account… You give choices The choices add up
You make a (withdrawal) choice that overrides

14. Applying Consequences with Empathy…
There is a problem
Identify who’s problem it is
Show empathy
Offer a positive relationship message

15. Consequences Vs. Punishment…
It takes pain to make changes
Outside to inside
Inside to outside
Punishment causes outside to inside pain, which causes feelings of revenge
Consequences are internalized. The child has caused their own pain with their choices

16. Four Principles… Expectations Two main ideas Struggling Cooperation
Enhancement of Self Concept
Expectations
Two main ideas
It is fragile and easily broken
It is conservative & resistant to change
Struggling
Shared Control
Cooperation
Choices with limits
Must be legitimate
Equally acceptable to giver/receiver
Give all with equal “pizzazz”

17. Principles Cont… Give Consequences with Empathy Shared thinking
Sometimes pain must come before a change will be made
Student’s choice
Shared thinking
Questions-think of level (Bloom’s) and involvement in learning
If we provide adequate time students will often come to same conclusion as the adult

18. Finding Time for Love and Logic Discipline…
“I don’t have time to work with children in the Love and Logic way.”
Love & Logic teachers consistently report less time is spent on discipline as skills increase.

19. So What Do We Do? We stick with it!
You control the discipline problems, they do not control you.

20. Building positive relationships
Trick to controlling the time you spend on discipline is related to your ability to:
Building positive relationships
Set enforceable limits through enforceable statements
Share control
Stop behaviors in their infancy, avoiding the need for consequences
Delay Consequences

21. Why We Delay Our Approach…
Student is emotional, not thinking right
Teacher more stressed taking time away from activities
Student gains control by controlling teachers activities

22. Basic Rules… Meet with students on your time Own terms
Short, sweet interactions
Ask brief questions
Anne, Kendra, Matt reading… = )

23. Dealing with kids that feed off each other…
Make a list of students involved and prioritize
Divide & Conquer
Option for disruptions
Move the leader
Go to first student
Go to next student
Continue until student thinks he/she can stay and behave

24. Implement the “One Sentence Intervention”…
Notice positive and personal attributes
Do this a couple of times a week
Experiment w/ “____, will you stop doing that just for me?
Heart to heart w/students after school to solve entire problem