1. Sociology 1201 Sociology 1201: Week Six

2. Sociology 1201 Sociology of sex How do we learn about sex in the United States? How do we learn about sex in the United States? –Families: reality or an idealized version –Schools: the facts but often not the meanings –Church –Mass Media: commercialization of sex –Peers and lovers Sex and the double standard Sex and the double standard The sexual revolution: when, why, where, what? The sexual revolution: when, why, where, what?

3. Sociology 1201 How do sociologists study sex? Survey Research Survey Research –1 st efforts: the Kinsey Reports –Lauman et. al: The Social Organization of Sexuality 1992 N=3,432 Adults –National Survey of Family Growth: Sexual Behavior and Selected Health Measures 1995 N=12,571 Ages 15-44

4. Sociology 1201 Lauman et al: The Social Organization of Sexuality

5. Sociology 1201 Bogle, Hooking Up, 2008 A. “During my own college career in the early 1990s, hooking up seemed to be at the center of the social scene.” A. “During my own college career in the early 1990s, hooking up seemed to be at the center of the social scene.” B. 2000: as a graduate student, she found herself trying to explain hooking up to an older faculty member with two sons soon to enter college. He said: “Why don’t you do a study of that?” and it became her Ph.D. thesis B. 2000: as a graduate student, she found herself trying to explain hooking up to an older faculty member with two sons soon to enter college. He said: “Why don’t you do a study of that?” and it became her Ph.D. thesis –1. Interviews with 76 people, at two colleges on the East Coast (one a large state university, one a small Catholic institution). Interviewed 76 people from 2001 to 2006, 34 men and 42 women, 51 undegraduates and 25 alumni, 95% white, some in fraternities and sororities, some who neither drank nor attended parties. 2. More informally, she has spoiken to hundreds of college students about these issues and to many twenty-something singles. C. “Ultimately I found that one of the most useful ways of comparing today’s hooking-up culture with the dating era is to look at each as a script.” C. “Ultimately I found that one of the most useful ways of comparing today’s hooking-up culture with the dating era is to look at each as a script.”

6. Sociology 1201 Script for the dating era Dating, at least formally, controlled by men; they did the inviting; they paid; and there was a sexual double standard. Dating, at least formally, controlled by men; they did the inviting; they paid; and there was a sexual double standard. Sexual experience a status marker for men. Sexual experience a status marker for men. An elaborate code, learned informally: “necking” and “petting,” above the waist and below the waist An elaborate code, learned informally: “necking” and “petting,” above the waist and below the waist Women expected to apply the brakes? “Why would he marry you when he’s already sleeping with you?” Women expected to apply the brakes? “Why would he marry you when he’s already sleeping with you?” Only 17% of baby boom brides had sex with someone besides their husband before marriage, and if you got pregnant, marriage was expected (though it didn’t always happen, of course) Only 17% of baby boom brides had sex with someone besides their husband before marriage, and if you got pregnant, marriage was expected (though it didn’t always happen, of course)

7. Script for hooking up Bogle: “Define hooking up” Bogle: “Define hooking up” Tony, quote, p. 24; Lisa, p. 26 Tony, quote, p. 24; Lisa, p. 26 B: “Both men and women may have reason to be intentionally vague.” Leaves men free to exaggerate and women to minimize. B: “Both men and women may have reason to be intentionally vague.” Leaves men free to exaggerate and women to minimize. How it happens: Jack, p. 30; Lisa, p. 31, Bogle, p. 33; Kevin, p. 34; Emily, p. 35, Max p. 36. How it happens: Jack, p. 30; Lisa, p. 31, Bogle, p. 33; Kevin, p. 34; Emily, p. 35, Max p. 36. Sociology 1201

8. Why is Everyone Afraid of Sex? Discussion questions from reading by Pepper Schwartz, Reading 12 in “Families as they Really Are.” Discussion questions from reading by Pepper Schwartz, Reading 12 in “Families as they Really Are.” Sociology 1201

9. Hooking Up Script II: What Happens Next? No strings attached? (p. 40) No strings attached? (p. 40) The least likely outcome (p. 42) The least likely outcome (p. 42) Rebecca, p. 42-3 Rebecca, p. 42-3 “Several women indicated that knowing nothing might come of a hookup was something they learned over time… the hard way.” “Several women indicated that knowing nothing might come of a hookup was something they learned over time… the hard way.” Central role of alcohol Central role of alcohol Sociology 1201

10. Alternatives to hooking up? “Students who do not participate in the hookup culture on campus are on the margins of the social scene and they know it.” p. 69-71 “Students who do not participate in the hookup culture on campus are on the margins of the social scene and they know it.” p. 69-71 “Although some students were able to find a relationship without hooking up, most students see hooking up as the only game in town.” “Although some students were able to find a relationship without hooking up, most students see hooking up as the only game in town.” Sociology 1201

11. Still a double standard? “One thing that has not changed with the shift to hooking up is that men continue to hold most of the power, as they did in the dating era…” “One thing that has not changed with the shift to hooking up is that men continue to hold most of the power, as they did in the dating era…” Quote, p. 173 Quote, p. 173 Waller, 1930s study at Penn State, “principle of least interest” Waller, 1930s study at Penn State, “principle of least interest” Sociology 1201

12. Orgasm in colllege hookups and relationships Discussion questions from reading 31, Families as they Really Are Discussion questions from reading 31, Families as they Really Are Sociology 1201

13. After college “After college, the men and women I interviewed became increasingly focused on finding a girlfriend/boyfriend, and in order to do so most virtually abandoned hooking up in favor of traditional dating.” “After college, the men and women I interviewed became increasingly focused on finding a girlfriend/boyfriend, and in order to do so most virtually abandoned hooking up in favor of traditional dating.” Elizabeth (p. 130): “It’s kind of funny because no one has really ever asked me out during college….” Elizabeth (p. 130): “It’s kind of funny because no one has really ever asked me out during college….” Sociology 1201

14. “How is the hookup scene now compared to college? Matthew: “Now it’s more date oriented…(p. 134 Matthew: “Now it’s more date oriented…(p. 134 KB: “Do you even try for a hookup and it doesn’t work, or don’t you even try? KB: “Do you even try for a hookup and it doesn’t work, or don’t you even try? Matthew: “I would have to say I don’t even try. Matthew: “I would have to say I don’t even try. KB: “So if you are interested in someone…” “I ask them for a date.” KB: “So if you are interested in someone…” “I ask them for a date.” Sociology 1201

15. Why the change? “A major factor …is the change in relationship goals for both men and women…. They are increasingly looking for relationships with marriage potential.” (p. 137) “A major factor …is the change in relationship goals for both men and women…. They are increasingly looking for relationships with marriage potential.” (p. 137) Sociology 1201

16. Very traditional dating script “According to alumni, the man generally…initiated the date by first asking for the phone number and then following up with a phone call to ask for a date.” “According to alumni, the man generally…initiated the date by first asking for the phone number and then following up with a phone call to ask for a date.” Will: “I would say 75 to 80 percent of the time, the girl wants the guy to call; the girls wants the ball to be in the guy’s court” Will: “I would say 75 to 80 percent of the time, the girl wants the guy to call; the girls wants the ball to be in the guy’s court” Sociology 1201

17. Who pays? KB: “So, you call and ask them out to dinner. Then do you drive, do you pay, how does that work?” KB: “So, you call and ask them out to dinner. Then do you drive, do you pay, how does that work?” Jake: “I am old fashioned. I take care of it all.” (p. 140) Jake: “I am old fashioned. I take care of it all.” (p. 140) KB: “After college, men seem to interact with the opposite sex as one might expect their grandfathers to have done.” Very much NOT “Sex in the City.” KB: “After college, men seem to interact with the opposite sex as one might expect their grandfathers to have done.” Very much NOT “Sex in the City.” Sociology 1201

18. Sex and dating KB: “Suddenly the same people who hooked up in college now believe men and women should find out more about each other before anything sexual happens.” KB: “Suddenly the same people who hooked up in college now believe men and women should find out more about each other before anything sexual happens.” Carol: p. 142 Carol: p. 142 KB: “By senior year many women had figured out that the more they liked someone and the more they wanted a relationship, the less they should do sexually.” KB: “By senior year many women had figured out that the more they liked someone and the more they wanted a relationship, the less they should do sexually.” Sociology 1201

19. Revisiting the double standard KB: “The change, with a dating script, to more conservative sexual norms is ironic…” p. 145 KB: “The change, with a dating script, to more conservative sexual norms is ironic…” p. 145 Matthew: “I would never, never date a girl I banged on the first date. “ Matthew: “I would never, never date a girl I banged on the first date. “ The men I talked with were also concerned about their date’s sexual history… Jake, Matthew.. Pp. 149-150 Sociology 1201