1. DISCIPLINE WITHOUT TEARS Rudolf Dreikurs, M.D., and Pearl Cassel

2. “All living things know what to do with their young-except the parents of today. We parents and teachers must first build a new tradition, if we want to live in a world of peaceful co- existence.” (Dreikurs, 7)

3. Autocratic  Boss  domination  Power  Faultfinding  Punishing Democratic  Leader  Guidance  Influence  Encouragement  Helping

4. CHILDREN’S GOALS OF MISBEHAVIOR The 4 goals  Attention Getting  Power  Revenge  Display of inadequacy

5. CHART 1 IDENTIFYING THE GOALS OF CHILDREN’S MISBEHAVIOR Goals Success/charmNuisance/laziness Teacher feels annoyed Goal 1 Attention Getting Rebel/Stubborn Teacher feels defeated Goal 2 Power Vicious/violent passivity Teacher feels deeply hurt Goal 3 Revenge Hopeless Teacher feels helpless Goal 4 Display of Inadequacy

6. THE STEPS o Observe the child’s behavior in detail. o Be psychologically sensitive to your own reaction. o Confront the child with the four goals. o Note the recognition reflex. o Apply appropriate corrective procedures. o How are you (the teacher) feeling?

7. THE RIGHT QUESTIONS ???

8.  Competition  Encouragement  Praise v.s encouragement  Logical Consequences not punishment  Pair Share Logical Consequences and a praise v.s. encouragement

9. CONFLICT SOLVING  Don’t fight, don’t give in.  Identify the nature of the conflict.  Reach an agreement.  Let everybody in the conflict participate in the decision-making.

10. WHICH MISTAKEN GOAL? Pair share Weaknesses?

11. THANK YOU Questions ????