1. The Social Costs ofPornography Patrick F. Fagan, Ph.D.

2. Drawn from Synthesis Paper The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family, and Community

3. Mind, Heart, Soul and Body

7. Enjoyment of the Sexual

10. Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995

11. Age of First Intercourse Versus Number of Sexual Partners Source: NSFG 1995

13. The More Sexual Partners the More Likely to Abort Source NSFG 1995 8 12 18 19 25 31 34 39 43 52 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 0123456-1011-1516-2021+ NUMBER OF NON MARITAL SEXUAL PARTNERS IN LIFETIME Percent who have abortions later

14. Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 1.71% 16.29% 32.89% 40.02% 44.02% 42.66% 49.45% 49.99% 47.55% 55.21% 49.89% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% Virgin at Time of First Marriage Had Pre- Marital Sex with First Husband 123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15-44 with Children

15. Non-Marital Sexual Partners And Single Motherhood Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 7.09% 30.21% 36.48% 38.81% 44.16% 53.07% 48.13% 47.03% 50.30% 56.98% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 0123456-1011-1516-2021+ Number of Lifetime Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active women Aged 15-44 with Children

17. Society’s Foundational Relationship

18. Belonging: Male + Female Family Child / Adult FatherMother Society At Large

19. 5 Stages of Pornography Viewing Addiction Escalation Desensitization Acting Out

20. Neuro-Substrates in the Brain (all learning)

21. 1 st Stage: Viewing Males: 6 times more likely to view And to spend more time

22. 2 nd Addiction Habituation Boredom Dissatisfaction

23. 3 rd Escalation Intensity Diversity Now habituated to what before was regarded as abnormal

24. 4 th Desensitization

25. Desensitization Cont’d Repeating the cycle of – Viewing – Addiction – Escalation – Desensitization Leading gradually to a pan- sexuality

26. 5 th Stage Acting Out Addictions to -- Cybersex Online Strip Bars Prostitution With others.. Pan Sexuality Perversions possible

27. Individual Effects - for All Depersonalization Objectification Mental Health Effects

28. * 17 percent of women struggle with pornography addiction. * One in three visitors to pornography sites were women. * 30 percent of Internet pornography consumers are women. Women and Pornography

29. Woman as Depersonalized Object

30. Degradation of Women

31. Effects on the Individual

32. Meaning of the sexual – Faithful – Intimacy – Companionship / friendship – Happiness – Family Good of the child Happiness / Heaven

33. Distortion of Reality

34. Eros and Thanatos

35. Lust - Anger

36. Effects on Marriage Meaning of the sexual – Faithful – Intimacy – Companionship / friendship – Happiness – Family Good of the child Happiness / Heaven

37. Loss of interest (2/3) 2/3 of couples with a pornography addiction

38. Infidelity

39. Effects on Marriage Love spouse less Spouse is less attractive / inadequate 1/3 couples are sexually involved; 2/3 not Distress/ wounds / trauma of spouse/ Rx Users: importance of sexual relations without involvement See marriage as confining Fidelity not important Increased infidelity (68% of divorces involve ~) 3.7 times more use of prostitutes

40. Cybersex and Marriage Online Infidelity (about 80% for both) Distress/ wounds of wives / husbands Seen by spouse as being unfaithful Leads to face to face (about 80% for both) Distaste for spouse 48% lose their spouse 58% considerable financial loss 1/3 lose their jobs

41. Different Ratings of Infidelities Men for the physical sexual arousal Women for the relational engagement Men more upset by physical infidelity Women more upset by emotional infidelity

42. Other Effects Depression / Loneliness 60 % of divorces Poverty Culture of rejection (Thanatos) Public good of children Marriage becomes meaningless

43. Childhood Initiation “Basically-- Porn is Everywhere” Melinda Horvarth at al (2013) UK Gov. Report

44. Effects on Children Reality distortion of the sexual Discovery of parental “stash” Stress in the home Less face to face time with parents Separation, divorce 60% of divorces Rejection Culture of rejection Public good of children massively weakened

45. Adolescent Initiation

46. Effects on Adolescents Task of discovering sexuality is distorted Increased uncertainties about sexuality Lower self esteem Favorable attitudes towards pornography Increased levels of intercourse Increased non-romantic involvement Increased teen pregnancy (doubles with greater sexual content on TV viewing) HOOK UP CULTURE

47. Effects on Women As users Isolation / Alienation / Marriage loss Cybersex exploitation Depression As victims Depression/ Trauma Loss of marital intimacy Loss of marriage Divorce Poverty Effect on children affects mother

48. Effects on Community 2007: 36% males and 25% of females not ashamed of viewing porn Increasingly see pornography as harmless Degradation of culture Degradation of women Sex trafficking Effect on Foundational Virtue of Chastity

49. SEXUALLY ORIENTED BUSINESSES CRIME PROPERTY VALUES EROS + THANATOS

50. Media Desensitization PG-13

51. Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995

53. Enjoyment of the Sexual

54. 3.93 Million Children 3.17 Million Children 0.75 Million Children Unmarried Parents Same Parents If Married Source R Rector (Heritage Fdn) : Analysis of CPS 2001 Children in Poverty In Poverty Out of Poverty

56. Retreat from Marriage: Black Men (25-54) by Education Level

57. Free To Choose-- Not Free to Choose The Consequences

60. What to do?

61. What to Do? “The problem with pornography is not that it reveals too much of a woman but too little.” John Paul II

62. What to Do? Healthy Social Life Friends - Service

63. What to Do? Dr. Kevin Majers Exercise!

64. What to Do?

66. Read “The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family and Community” MARRI.US http://marri.us/pornography

67. “The problem with pornography is that it does not reveal too much of a woman but too little.” Bl. John Paul II