1. LOVE

2. Kinds of Love “The Triangle of Love” by Robert Sternberg “The Triangle of Love” by Robert Sternberg There are eight types of love There are eight types of love –Non Love--Romantic Love –Liking--Companionate Love –Infatuated Love--Fatuous Love –Empty Love--Consummate Love Each has one of three aspects present or absent Each has one of three aspects present or absent –Intimacy –Passion –Commitment

3. Intimacy Intimacy is one of our most valuable human dynamics. It is the glue that binds us in common dedication and affection. Intimacy is one of our most valuable human dynamics. It is the glue that binds us in common dedication and affection. –Your desire to promote the welfare of another person –Your happiness at being able to share experiences –Your sense of regard for one another –You mutual understanding that you will “be there” for one another in times of need –The acknowledgement of one another’s value in your life

4. Passion Passion is the romantic and physical element of a relationship. It is the easiest of the three to recognize ;-), but that doesn’t mean it is simple to define or control. Although passion is usually experienced physically, sexual activity also meets many different emotional needs. Passion is the romantic and physical element of a relationship. It is the easiest of the three to recognize ;-), but that doesn’t mean it is simple to define or control. Although passion is usually experienced physically, sexual activity also meets many different emotional needs. –Your romantic feelings –Your physical attraction and desire to be together –You mutual sexual enjoyment and fulfillment –Your physical and emotional arousal

5. Commitment Commitment can be divided into two stages. The first is the decision that you love someone; the second is the determination to maintain that love over time. The commitment process is essential to every lasting relationship. Commitment can be divided into two stages. The first is the decision that you love someone; the second is the determination to maintain that love over time. The commitment process is essential to every lasting relationship. –Your decision that what you feel for the other person is a special kind of love –Your willingness to symbolize or articulate your love in some way –Your understanding that the relationship is more than just a fluke or convenient –Your decision to invest in the relationship for a defined period of time (“forever”, “for the long term” “til death doe us part”, etc.)

6. Eight Types of Love 1. Non Love-No intimacy, no passion, no commitment 1. Non Love-No intimacy, no passion, no commitment –Love gone wrong, Nasty Breakup, Bitterness 2. Liking-Intimacy, no passion, no commitment 2. Liking-Intimacy, no passion, no commitment –Mutual Breakup, Shared info, friendships 3. Infatuated Love-No intimacy, Passion, No commitment 3. Infatuated Love-No intimacy, Passion, No commitment –Pure Lust, just about sex, all fire!!!! 4. Empty Love-No intimacy, No Passion, Commitment 4. Empty Love-No intimacy, No Passion, Commitment –Unrequited love, Crush, Ex’s/Former Flames

7. Eight Types of Love 5. Romantic Love-Has Intimacy, Has Passion, no commitment 5. Romantic Love-Has Intimacy, Has Passion, no commitment –New Love, The Beginning!, Start of something 6. Companionate Love-Has Intimacy, no passion, has commitment 6. Companionate Love-Has Intimacy, no passion, has commitment –Usually those married or in a relationship for a very long time (more than 20 years) 7. Fatuous Love- No intimacy, has passion, has commitment 7. Fatuous Love- No intimacy, has passion, has commitment –Smothering, PDA, Can be stalker like 8. Consummate Love-Has all three-intimacy, passion, and commitment 8. Consummate Love-Has all three-intimacy, passion, and commitment –The Real Deal (What we all hope for in our lives.)

8. Kinds of Love (Songs) Individually, identify a song that exemplifies each of the eight kinds of love Individually, identify a song that exemplifies each of the eight kinds of love 1. Non-love: “Love Stinks”-J Geils Band 1. Non-love: “Love Stinks”-J Geils Band 2. Liking: “Cool”-Gwen Stefani 2. Liking: “Cool”-Gwen Stefani 3. Infatuated Love: “Ring of Fire” Johnny Cash 3. Infatuated Love: “Ring of Fire” Johnny Cash 4. Empty Love: “I Will Always Love You” 4. Empty Love: “I Will Always Love You” 5. Romantic Love: “Melt w/ You” Modern English 5. Romantic Love: “Melt w/ You” Modern English 6. Companionate Love: “Stand By Me” Ben E King 6. Companionate Love: “Stand By Me” Ben E King 7. Fatuous Love: “Every Breath You Take” Police 7. Fatuous Love: “Every Breath You Take” Police 8. Consummate Love: “ When a Man Loves a Woman” Percy Sledge 8. Consummate Love: “ When a Man Loves a Woman” Percy Sledge

9. Non-Love Songs I Will Survive I Will Survive Before He Cheats Before He Cheats Tainted Love Tainted Love

10. Liking Songs Joy to the World, Jeremiah was a Bullfrog Joy to the World, Jeremiah was a Bullfrog Get By With a Little Help From My Friends Get By With a Little Help From My Friends Lean on Me Lean on Me

11. Infatuated Love Candy Shop Candy Shop This Love This Love Light My Fire Light My Fire Closer Closer

12. Empty Love Mr. Brightside Mr. Brightside Layla Layla Killing Me Softly Killing Me Softly

13. Romantic Love Songs Wonderful Tonight Wonderful Tonight Let My Love Open the Door Let My Love Open the Door All I Want Is You All I Want Is You

14. Companionate Love Songs Faithfully Faithfully You’ve Got a Friend You’ve Got a Friend Have I Told You Lately Have I Told You Lately

15. Fatuous Love Songs Escape Escape I Want You to Want Me I Want You to Want Me Invisible Invisible

16. Consummate Love Songs In Your Eyes In Your Eyes True Companion True Companion At Last At Last Sugar Magnolia Sugar Magnolia