2. Do You Know Someone Who Has Experienced Abuse?
If it was happening right now, are you sure you would know?
Would they be too ashamed to speak about it?
Would they hide it from you?
Would they stop taking your calls? Stop attending social events?
Would they give you strange explanations for their erratic behavior?
Would they stop looking you in the eye when you talked?
Would you be afraid to ask what was really going on?
Domestic abuse is hidden and dangerous. Take the time to
learn more about it. Knowing what to do could help you save a life.

3. Domestic Abuse: Definition
Domestic abuse is a pattern of intimidating and coercive behavior that includes the use or threat of violence and other menacing actions for the purpose of gaining power and control over another person.

4. Domestic Abuse in the U.S.
One in every four women and nearly one in seven men in the U.S. have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime.1  
An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.2
The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $5.8 billion each year, $4.1 billion of which is for direct medical and mental health services.3
Victims of intimate partner violence lost almost 8 million days of paid work because of the violence perpetrated against them. This loss is the equivalent of more than 32,000 full-time jobs. 3
Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States; more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.4

5. Locally
Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.5 Even so, more than 12,000 DV arrests were made in Pima County in 2013.
At least 17 people died in Pima County from domestic abuse in
1. Intimate Partner Violence in the United States, 2010, a publication of the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
2. Costs of Intimate Partner Violence Against Women in the United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Centers for Injury Prevention and Control. Atlanta, GA.
3. Costs of Intimate Partner Violence Against Women in the United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Centers for Injury Prevention and Control. Atlanta, GA.
4. "Violence Against Women, A Majority Staff Report," Committee on the Judiciary, United States Senate, 102nd Congress, October 1992, p.3.
5. Frieze, I.H., Browne, A. (1989) Violence in Marriage. In L.E. Ohlin & M. H. Tonry (eds.) Family Violence. Chicago, IL: University of Chicago Press.
6. AZ Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence

6. Children & Domestic Abuse
Witnessing violence between one’s parents or caretakers is the strongest risk factor of transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next.1
Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults.2
30% to 60% of perpetrators of intimate partner violence also abuse children in the household.3
1. Break the Cycle. (2006). Startling Statistics.
2. Strauss, Gelles, and Smith, “Physical Violence in American Families: Risk Factors and Adaptations to Violence” in 8,145 Families. Transaction Publishers (1990).
3. Edelson, J.L. (1999). “The Overlap Between Child Maltreatment and Woman Battering.” Violence Against Women. 5:

7. Power & Control hitting criticizing forced sex choking pushing
Psychological
abuse
Minimizing/ denying
Intimidation
Coercion/
Threats
Entitlement
Economic abuse
Using Children
hitting
forced sex
choking
name calling
criticizing
pushing
using weapons
Isolation

8. Tactics an Abuser May Use
Isolation
Denying Access to Money
Physical Abuse
Abusing Children
Using Weapons
Unwanted Touching
Ruining Your Credit
Blaming
Sexual Abuse
Criticizing
Coercion
Name Calling
Denying Behavior
Biting
Shifting Blame
Hitting
Threats
Forced Sex
Psychological Abuse
Hair Pulling
Intimidation
Choking
Infidelity
Critical Remarks
Treating You As Inferior
Threatening or Cruelty to Pets
Monitoring Your Calls or Whereabouts
Minimizing
Cultural wheels exist too.

9. Some of the Warning Signs
Controlling behaviors: Telling partner how to style hair, what to wear, or always deciding where to go/what to do on dates; accompanying partner to appointments; getting inappropriately angry if partner is late or unavailable.
Cruelty to animals: Punishing animals harshly and being insensitive to their suffering.
Cruelty to children: Having unrealistic expectations of children’s capabilities; bullying or teasing children until they cry.
Disrespect: Speaking disrespectfully to partner; being rude to waiters and waitresses; expressing racist or sexist attitudes; being outwardly disrespectful to others of different social background, religion, race, or people with disabilities.
Double-standards: Having a different set of rules and expectations for partner and self.
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10. Warning Signs
History of violent behavior: Having a history of violence in past relationships is predictive of violence in future relationships. Many, but not all abusers were victims of domestic abuse in their families while growing up.
Isolation: Monopolizing partner’s time; sabotaging partner’s relationships with family and friends; calling or texting frequently to check up on partner.
Impulsivity and mood swings: Not thinking through the consequences of actions; having explosive mood swings ie. “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde;” ranting and raving over minor things.
Jealousy: Demonstrating excessive possessiveness; expressing ownership of partner; dropping by unexpectedly; having friends “keep an eye” on partner; accusing partner of flirting with others; making excuses for jealous behavior by saying it is out of love.
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11. Warning Signs
Minimization and blaming: Avoiding taking responsibility for actions; blaming others for problems and feelings; denying or minimizing past history of abuse or violence.
Quick involvement: Pushing a partner to commit to a serious relationship very quickly; wanting partner to move in, get married, or have children in a short period of time or before they are ready.
Threats of violence: “I’ll kill myself if you leave me” or “I’ll kill you if you leave me,” and/or dismissing threats with comments like, “I was just joking,” or “I really didn’t mean it.”
Unrealistic expectations: Expecting partner to be perfect and meet all of their needs; expecting partner to conform to rigid gender roles; demanding that their needs come before partner’s needs.
Use of force or coercion during sex: Guilt-tripping partner into having sex; showing little concern over whether partner wants or does not want sex.

12. Barriers to Leaving an Abusive Relationship
Love
Hope the relationship will get better
Fear
Financial dependence
Guilt/Feelings of obligation
Feeling responsible for what is happening
Self-esteem
Cultural/Religious values
Children
Isolation/Lack of support
Emotional dependence
Immigration status

13. Take an Active Role
Our response to domestic abuse as a society is slowly changing, and we need your help to keep up the momentum.
Be a loud public voice that let’s your family, friends, co-workers and social groups know that you do not condone abusive behavior against anyone
When others make uneducated comments about abuse or those who are being abused, coach them about the barriers to leaving abuse, and how dangerous it really is—they probably don’t realize how their negative comments might impact others
Know how to reach out if someone you know is being abused, how you respond could be the very thing that inspires them to find help
Pass this presentation on, you may never need to use this information—but someone you know definitely will need it at some point

14. Know the Signs & Respond
Your response to what they tell you may determine whether they seek the help they need.
Speak somewhere private
Be concerned for their safety and say so
If they deny abuse – express concern and state your availability to talk in the future
If they disclose abuse – believe them and say so
Tell them it’s not their fault
Respect their choices – they are the expert in what is and is not safe for them
Don’t confront the abuser – this will put both you and the victim in additional danger
Give them hope that there is help

15. Do You or Does Someone You Know Need Help?
Don’t Go It Alone!
The hotline is for everyone, from people in abusive relationships to friends, loved ones, or even employers who need more information and support.
24-Hour Bilingual Hotline
Local:
Toll-free:

16. Against Domestic Abuse
About Emerge! Center
Against Domestic Abuse
Emerge!’s role is not to take control of the situation.
Our objective is to have the participant regain their
sense of control and find their own path to a safer life.
We are a 501(c)(3) non-profit agency.
We rely on government funding and private donations from people like you.

17. Emerge! Emergency Services
24-Hour Bilingual Hotline
Local:
Toll Free:
Emergency Shelter Facility
Confidential location
Staffed 24-hours

18. Comprehensive Services
One-on-one Support:
Crisis Counseling
Safety Planning
Information & Referral
Support Groups—Day & Evening
Domestic Abuse & Life Skills Education
Lay Legal Services:
Orders of Protection
Court Accompaniment
Victim’s Rights Information
Lawyer Referrals & General Information
VAWA/U-Visa
Support/Referrals Related to Divorce & Child Custody
Information About Legal Rights Related to Breaking Leases Due to Domestic Violence
Child & Family Services:
Individual & Group Sessions for Children
Sessions that Help Children form Trusting Bonds with their Non-abusing Parent & Siblings
Age-appropriate interventions & education
Family Sessions & Groups
Family Support
Expressive Art & Writing
Pet Therapy
Help Setting Up Abuse-Free Homes:
Transitional & Permanent Housing

19. Safety Planning
Safety plans are intended to help increase safety and decrease risk. They are the first step toward a new life.
The professionals at the Emerge! hotline are able to assist in developing safety plans for each individual’s unique situation.
If the abused person chooses not to call Emerge!, family or friends can call to find out the best way to help based on the specifics of that person’s circumstances.
Keeping foliage trim prevents stalkers from hiding around the house
Security bars could mean a broom stick in the track of a sliding door or window – doesn’t necessarily mean full bars across windows
Pack emergency bag – secure important documents, if not in the home then with a trusted friend or family member
O of P – Order of Protection

20. Learn more at: www.emergecenter.org or call 520-795-8001.
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21. 24-Hour Bilingual Crisis Line:
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Toll-free: