1. God’s Design for Husbands and Wives
Sunday, May 3, 2015
Wayne Hartsgrove

3. Roles defined: 1 Peter 3:1-7
Role of the wife: Ephesians 5:21-22; 1 Peter 3:1; Galatians 5:22; Matthew 11:29
Role of the husband: Genesis 1:28; Genesis 3:17-19; Ephesians 5:25,28,33

4. Responsibility explained: Proverbs 31:10-12; 1Timothy 5:8 
The values of a virtuous wife: Philippians 4:8
The value of a loving resourceful husband: 1Timothy 5:8

5. Love that binds: Ephesians 5:22-23; Galatians 3:28; Ephesians 5:23-27, 33

7. The Bible recommends the wife to nag her husband
True or False?

8. The wife is cautioned against being seductive or flirtatious.

9. Husbands need to know their wives concerns, desires, fears.

10. The value of a virtuous wife is mentioned in Proverbs 31.

11. A resourceful husband will provide for the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of his household.

12. A resourceful husband is a good worker, flexible, decisive, a good administrator, and a good steward. He is not lazy or idle.

13. The most important role of a husband is to be the priest of his home.

14. Love submits, love initiates, love obeys.

15. As husbands we are commanded to love our wife whether she submits or not.

16. What chapter in the New Testament is known as the “Love Chapter”?
1 Corinthians 13

18. Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

19. Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV)
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

20. Ephesians 5:24 (NKJV)
24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

21. Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

22. Ephesians 5:26 (NKJV)
26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,

23. Ephesians 5:27 (NKJV)
27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

24. Ephesians 5:28 (NKJV)
28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

25. Ephesians 5:29 (NKJV)
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

26. Ephesians 5:30 (NKJV)
30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.

27. Ephesians 5:31 (NKJV)
31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

28. Ephesians 5:32 (NKJV)
32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

29. Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV)
33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

30. Deuteronomy 6:3 (NKJV)
3 Therefore hear, O Israel, and be careful to observe it, that it may be well with you, and that you may multiply greatly as the Lord God of your fathers has promised you—‘a land flowing with milk and honey.’

31. Deuteronomy 6:4-5 (NKJV)
4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.

32. Deuteronomy 6:6 (NKJV)
6 “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.

33. Mark 12:28 (NKJV)
28 Then one of the scribes came, and having heard them reasoning together, perceiving that He had answered them well, asked Him, “Which is the first commandment of all?”

34. Mark 12:29 (NKJV)
29 Jesus answered him, “The first of all the commandments is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.

35. Mark 12:30 (NKJV)
30 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment.

36. Matthew 6:9 (NKJV)
9 In this manner, therefore, pray:
Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your name.

37. Romans 8:14 (NKJV)
14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.

38. Romans 8:15 (NKJV)
15 For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.”

39. Romans 8:16 (NKJV)
16 The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God,

40. Romans 8:17 (NKJV)
17 and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him, that we may also be glorified together.

41. 1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)
3 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,

42. 1 Peter 3:2 (NKJV)
2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

43. 1 Peter 3:3 (NKJV)
3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—

44. 1 Peter 3:4 (NKJV)
4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

45. 1 Peter 3:5 (NKJV)
5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,

46. 1 Peter 3:6 (NKJV)
6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

47. 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV)
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

48. Ephesians 5:21 (NKJV)
21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.

49. Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

50. Galatians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

51. Matthew 11:29 (NKJV)
29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

52. Genesis 1:28 (NKJV)
28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

53. Genesis 3:17 (NKJV)
17  Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’:
“Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life.

54. Genesis 3:18 (NKJV)
18  Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, And you shall eat the herb of the field.

55. Genesis 3:19 (NKJV)
19  In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread Till you return to the ground, For out of it you were taken; For dust you are, And to dust you shall return.”

56. Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

57. Ephesians 5:28 (NKJV)
28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

58. Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV)
33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

59. 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV)
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

60. Proverbs 3:10 (NKJV)
10  So your barns will be filled with plenty, And your vats will overflow with new wine.

61. Proverbs 3:11 (NKJV)
11  My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor detest His correction;

62. Proverbs 3:12 (NKJV)
12  For whom the Lord loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights.

63. 1 Timothy 5:8 (NKJV)
8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

64. Ephesians 5:21 (NKJV)
21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.

65. Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)
8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

66. 1 Timothy 5:8 (NKJV)
8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

67. Ephesians 5:21 (NKJV)
21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.

68. Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

69. Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV)
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

70. Galatians 3:28 (NKJV)
28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

71. Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV)
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

72. Ephesians 5:24 (NKJV)
24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

73. Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

74. Ephesians 5:26 (NKJV)
26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,

75. Ephesians 5:27 (NKJV)
27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

76. Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV)
33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

77. 1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)
3 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,

78. 1 John 4:8 (NKJV)
8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

79. 1 John 4:8 (NKJV)
8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

80. 1 Corinthians 13:1 (NKJV)
13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.

81. 1 Corinthians 13:2 (NKJV)
2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

82. 1 Corinthians 13:3 (NKJV)
3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.

83. 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NKJV)
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

84. 1 Corinthians 13:5 (NKJV)
5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

85. 1 Corinthians 13:6 (NKJV)
6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

86. 1 Corinthians 13:7 (NKJV)
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

87. 1 Corinthians 13:8 (NKJV)
8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.

88. 1 Corinthians 13:9 (NKJV)
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part.

89. 1 Corinthians 13:10 (NKJV)
10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

90. 1 Corinthians 13:11 (NKJV)
11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

91. 1 Corinthians 13:12 (NKJV)
12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

92. 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NKJV)
13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

93. Ephesians 5:22 (NKJV)
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

94. Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

95. Ephesians 6:2 (NKJV)
2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise:

96. God’s Design
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Husbands and Wives