1. Relationships/Communication Notes
Human Behavior

2. Relationships: Connections with other people We need relationships.
Positive/healthy relationships serve a significant function in our lives:
Meet emotional needs
Enrich life
Help us get things done

3. Types of relationships
Friends
Co-workers
Parent-Child
Teacher-Student
Siblings
Significant others
Etc.

4. Acquaintance: People you know but aren’t particularly close to.
Example: A friend in class that you don’t usually hang out with outside of school

5. Codependent
A dependency on people - on their moods, behavior, sickness, well-being, and their love.

6. What makes a healthy relationship?
Mutuality: both people contribute
Trust: belief that others will not reject, betray or hurt you
Self-disclosure: Willingness to tell someone personal things about yourself
Rapport: a feeling of ease and harmony with another person
Empathy: When you have the ability to put yourself in another person’s position
Shared Interests: shared interests form a strong base for building a relationship
Unhealthy=Exploitation: Using another person unfairly for personal benefit

7. The Relationship Wheel
Compares the building of relationships to a wheel
Four spokes signify the four steps of relationship building
Rapport, Self-Revelation, Mutual Dependency, Need Fulfillment

8. Rapport Feeling of ease with you are with someone
Leads to more interaction between two people
Then you begin to relax your guard

9. Self-Revelation
As people feel more at ease, they are more likely to talk about feelings, experiences, and attitudes

10. Mutual Dependency
Learn each other’s habits and develop habits to respond to your partner
Depend and rely on each other

11. Needs Fulfillment
Getting respect, confidence and love/affection from the relationship
If you both fulfill each others needs, the relationship grows

12. Going backwards
The wheel can also move in the opposite direction, causing the destruction of the relationship
Sometimes the rapport you feel with someone leads to self-revelation that causes arguments or bad feelings. This is likely to cause less self-revelation. In turn, you rapport will decrease and fewer of your needs will be met.

13. Communication

14. Styles of Communication
Aggressive person: (write 2)
Passionately expresses opinions and feelings
Values self above others
Hurts others to avoid hurting self
Speaks loudly and abusively
Doesn’t listen to others
Stands up for rights at the expense of others

15. Styles of Communication
Assertive person:
Expresses opinions and feelings directly, honestly and appropriately
Speak for self
Values self equal to others
Doesn’t hurt self or others
Listens to others
Stands up for rights without violating someone else

16. Styles of Communication
Passive person:
Does not express opinions and feelings directly or honestly
Says what they think others want to hear
Values others before self
Belittles self
Gives up rights in favor of someone else’s

17. Non-verbal Communication
Communication without words
Examples:
Expressions
Gestures
Posture
Body language

18. Listening skills Good listeners build strong relationships
Passive listening: Listener puts aside personal judgments, just listens with little feedback.
Active listening:. Listener makes comments, give opinion and feedback.