1. Regional Caregivers Conference Southwest 2019
Never Quite Flying The Plane
Regional Caregivers Conference Southwest 2019
Never Quit Flying the Plane
The Amazing Difference
Planning Can Make
Jim Blythe,
Navy Veteran, Financial Counselor, Author, Listener,
Alliance4TheBrave Radio Show Host
Financial Services
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2. Never Quite Flying The Plane
Regional Caregivers Conference Southwest 2019
Questions:
What causes people to give up?
What is the largest cause of divorce?
What is the biggest fear of Seniors?
Why are 22 Veterans a day committing suicide?
Why do so many family caregivers “Burn out”?
What can we do about it?
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3. Never Quite Flying The Plane
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Aviation training, real estate planning, Naval training, and financial counseling gave me the ideas for Planning to Change and Challenges of Change and changed my life to help others. I know the danger of getting hopeless and helpless:
Boot camp - with a world famous DI: “Never give up!”
Naval aviation -Lemoore CA in the back seat of a jet fighter: “Never quit flying the plane, no matter what!”
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Tragic lesson - as part-owner of a private plane: Lack of planning and training combined with bad judgment and bad circumstances and resulted in disaster - A metaphor for our lives. That pilot DID quit flying the plane with terrible results.
The lesson keeps repeating - I see families giving up, lives wasted, dreams shattered, and spirits broken. 87% of juveniles in detention become felons, and felons keep returning to prison.
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Change Your Approach – STOP Emotional Roller Coaster: Military lesson - Navy Seal quoted when asked why the strenuous training and planning of the Seal Team? “When everything goes wrong, we fall to the lowest level of our training.” Their training and planning is the key to success, no matter what hits. 
What we want vs the reality of life. It hasn’t been easy since Eve failed in the Garden. 
Are we using all our assets and talents?
The “easy” path (no planning) leads to disaster. 
Accomplishment = Planning/Preparation/Training + Opportunity. (Can’t know everything that’s going to happen, but more training brings better results.)
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Thinking/Sharing -> Goals -> Plans:  
Discuss: What do we want to happen - our goal(s) together? Ask and LISTEN.
When Carees don’t want to talk, LISTEN when they say what they want, make notes, and discuss later when they are calm and cooperative: “I have heard you say …, is that what you want?” 
Written Goal(s): What, how, when? Get everyone on the same page. Make a notebook that contains the Plan and keep it updated.
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Research and resources
Wisdom of mentors and teachers, CSA 
Workshops, Conferences 
Books, manuals, or internet resources 
What you don’t know can and will hurt you.
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Written Plan: The power of writing it down. (Harvard Graduating Class Challenge)
Alternatives: important when the unexpected happens
Priorities: Biggest First illustration 
Tools: 
Budget - what will it cost?
Assets: What are they? How to use them?
Documentation: Wills, POAs, Med Directives, details and directions 
Stop signs to expect: objections, health changes, financial changes
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Alternatives, safe harbor (when do you stay on the ground?) 
Accountability – Use Plan: Measure, adjust, revise ... 
Real assets
Family assets
Community
Take care of ourselves: We are on a journey. What can happen? 
Mental fatigue
Physical fatigue
Overwhelm/Panic  
Isolation/Depression
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Survive to Serve 
Mental exercise: Read, discuss, learn new things, listen to self and others. (TV = numbing)
Physical training/exercise: get up off the couch. (Stroke lady story)
Share your experience – learn from others.
TEAM: Do NOT do this alone. (brushing teeth example)
ASK FOR HELP, even when you don’t think you need it! (real estate development experience)
Implement, evaluate, adjust. 
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When the goal is achieved, what’s next? 
Take time to reflect: celebrate wins, and learn from losses. 
Continue:
Thinking/Sharing -> Goals -> Plans  
Use your experience to help others on their journey.
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12. Never Quit Flying the Plane LEAVE NO ONE BEHIND!
Regional Caregivers Conference Southwest 2019
Never Quit Flying the Plane
Never give up
Never surrender
and most of all 
LEAVE NO ONE BEHIND!
Jim Blythe
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