1. However, each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must
respect her
husband.
Ephesians 5:33

3. God’s Plan
For Marriage II
Ephesians 5:22-33

4. Last week: (Ephesians 5:21-24)
Every one of us lives under an authority to whom we must submit. The submitting in vs. 21 is talking about a submission as befitting the relationship. Submitting in the Bible is always one-directional. We ultimately must submit ourselves to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. There is blessedness living in submission.

5. “Headship/submission” has been wrongfully (sinfully) applied.
What went wrong?
“Headship/submission” has been wrongfully (sinfully) applied.

6. God’s Plan
For Marriage II
Ephesians 5:22-33

7. This week
Headship/submission – what are the basics? Headship/submission worked out in a marriage When husband and wife don’t agree

8. Be filled with the Spirit… vs. 18
Speaking Singing Making melody Giving thanks
Submitting ourselves…
wives ( ) to your own husbands
as to the Lord.
voluntarily, willingly

9. 2 as 10 4 ?

10. as

11. God placed all things under His (Christ's) feet and appointed Him to the be the head over everything for the church... Ephesians 1:22
...speaking the truth in love we will in all things grow up into Him who is the Head, that is, Christ. 
Ephesians 4:15
Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
I Corinthians 11:3

12. Final authority Ultimate responsibility The one who takes the lead
“head”
Final authority Ultimate responsibility The one who takes the lead

13. Ultimate responsibility
Christ as “head”
Final authority
Ultimate responsibility
To prepare for Himself a radiant church
To feed and care for His church

14. Christ as “head” Final authority Ultimate responsibility
To prepare for Himself a radiant church
To feed and care for His church
The one who takes the lead
It was He who gave… (Ephesians 4:11-13)

15. Husband as “head” Conferred (delegated) authority Ex: Adam, leaders
In God’s “stead” – in place of God
Final authority
Ultimate responsibility
(Love wife as Christ has loved the church)
The one who takes the lead

16. Life in Whitewater

17. Husband’s role
Servant-leadership

18. Husband’s role in submission to Jesus Christ Servant-leadership
Prime example of one living
in submission to Jesus Christ

19. Grandpa Hutch
Tibbetts

20. A wife’s submission An eye to please Christ
(Ephesians 5:21-22)
An eye to please Christ
Christ is her Lord and Savior
Willingly submits to husband’s leadership
Is not: submitting thoughtlessly
a doormat
her husband’s slave
giving up her person-hood

21. A godly example
I Peter 3:1-7

22. Submission today
It is a wife's willingly coming under the leadership of her husband, responding to him in a spirit of gentleness and respect.
Intelligent submission

23. Camaraderie/friendship
Servant-leadership/Intelligent submission
‘One Flesh’
Communication
Camaraderie/friendship
Fruits of the Spirit
Serving one another
Fun, love, laughter

24. When husband and wife don’t agree

25. When husband and wife don’t agree
Is this a moral issue or a preference? If moral: Appeal to Scripture If preference: “Win/win” compromise

26. When husband and wife don’t agree
Is this a moral issue or a preference?
If moral: Appeal to Scripture
If preference: “Win/win” compromise
No resolve? Husband makes final decision
A wife may then:
Appeal to husband
Appeal to God
Meanwhile submits graciously

28. However, each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must
respect her
husband.
Ephesians 5:33