1. April 17-20, 2013 Illinois Great Rivers Conference Rev. Michelle Foster, presenter

2. Psalm 119:10-16 from The Message

3. Putting This Conversation in Context

5. Boundary Violation – any violation of sacred trust …It is not wrong because it violates norms. It is wrong because it violates people.

7. Sexual Misconduct

8. Sexual Harassment

9. Sexual Abuse Sexual Harassment Sexual Misconduct

10. Sexual harassment Sexual Abuse Sexual Misconduct Sexualized Behavior

11. Power and Vulnerability

12. Video Power and Vulnerability Power and Vulnerability

13. Questions for Reflection

14. Power and Vulnerability Dating & Friendships

15. Video Power and Vulnerability Dating and Friendships

17. Power and Vulnerability Gifts Dating & Friendships

18. Power and Vulnerability Gifts Transference Dating & Friendships

20. The Boundary Formula VP BV BC BD BD = Boundary Drift BC = Boundary Crossing BV = Boundary Violation T = Transgressions T

24. Video Power and Vulnerability The Growth of Social Media

25. In what ways do you use media in your ministry setting?

27. The Boundary Formula VP BV BC BD BD = Boundary Drift BC = Boundary Crossing BV = Boundary Violation T = Transgressions T

29. Perception Privacy Personal Feedback

30. The Pastor, The Internet, AND Pornography/Obscenity

31. Pornography – sexually explicit material that portrays violence, abuse, coercion, domination, humiliation or degradation for the purpose of arousal Obscenity – hard core porn pornographic material that is beyond what majority of society will tolerate

32. * Deterioration of relationships * Detrimental to emotional well being * Harmful to social demeanor * Adverse understanding of healthy sexual relationships NOT JUST A MANS ISSUE!

35. 1.What are your personal markers to alert you when your energy and spirit are low? 2.What needs do you have right now? 3.What needs are not being met?

36. Shadow Self by Carl Jung

37. Conflict Danger + Opportunity

39. M – meditation E – exercise D – diet S – sleep S - support

40. Counseling Pastoral Care Visits Dual Relationships Technology Self-Care

41. If someone is drowning, secure yourself before you swim out to save them. Otherwise both of you will drown.

44. Rev. Michelle Foster mfoster@wnccumc.net 336-442-3844