1. Self-Awareness and Self-Love
Love ourselves without judgement, and be aware of what’s going on inside of us.
Repeat “I truly and deeply love myself” three times in front of the mirror.
Rachel Navaro and Julia Mulligan
TAMS

2. Self-Awareness
Is:
The ability to be consciously in touch with what is going on inside of your body on a physical/emotional level
Sometimes referred to as body awareness, inner guidance or intuition
A benefit of having boundaries and being grounded
Is not:
Your likes, dislikes or personality
Self-Awareness comes from inside, its not what you like or what you look like

3. Self-Love Is: The ability to love oneself without judgement Humble
Unconditional
Always uplifting
A verb
Is not:
Arrogance or conceit
Masturbation
Punishment
Something you have to earn
A noun
Teen example: Choosing abstinence for a while and working on my relationship with self.
Do you deserve to be loved? YES!
Can happen that people don’t feel like they deserve to be loved, so they create situations that are negative for them

4. What’s so important about self-love?
It feels good – to you and others
It effects your life on all levels
It is essential for loving others in a healthy, unconditional manner
It increases confidence and awareness of personal skills and abilities
It helps you make good decisions

5. How can we begin to love ourselves?
Through increasing self-awareness:
Boundaries (physical)
Grounding
Through increasing thought-awareness
By choosing to think positive, affirming thoughts
Through the creation of new core beliefs

6. Self-Awareness: Boundaries
Boundaries and grounding are essential for a healthy relationship with oneself and others
Your boundaries define physical limits. They make clear the separation between oneself and others
Boundaries are intelligent, like a cell wall (structural support, protection, and filter) they “let in” what is good for you and “keep out” what is not
*Do activity

7. Personal Space Invaders

8. Self-Awareness: Grounding
Boundaries and grounding are essential for a healthy relationship with oneself and others
Your grounding cord connects you to the earth
Grounding keeps you balanced between the energies of inspiration and imagination and the stable earth energies of intuition and instinct

9. Boundaries and Grounding
Boundary
Inspiration
Intuition
Instinct
Grounding Cord

10. Thoughts have power
There is no such thing as a useless thought. Each thought you have has power
We have between 50,000 and 75,000 thoughts each day
90-95% of our thoughts are repeated each day
We are largely unaware of our thoughts
Most repetitive thoughts are negative (fear, judgement, depressing, rejection, scarcity and resentful)
Thoughts do not just stay in your head, they extend out of you and effect others (saliva experiment)

11. Thought Awareness
Start paying attention to the thoughts in your mind. This makes the unconscious stream of negative thoughts conscious, and also allows you to more easily choose positive thoughts
Tool: Place a check on a notecard every time you notice a negative thought. Do not judge the thought for yourself, just notice it.
Tool: Notice when your inner peace has been disturbed. Any disturbance can usually be traced back to a negative thought. Once you identify it, you can chose a different thought.

12. Making affirmations work
Remember that you are creating something new and fresh, not trying to redo or change what already exists. Every moment is an opportunity to create what you desire.
Try to believe that your affirmation can be true. Temporarily suspend your doubts and judgements
Phrase them in the present tense, as if you already have it
Phrase them in the most positive way you can. State what you want rather than what you don’t want.
*M & M activity

13. Common core beliefs that can be a problem: (check any that you believe)
I’m not OK, There’s something wrong with me, I’m unworthy/undeserving
I’ve made mistakes in my life and deserve to suffer for them
It’s bad to think highly of yourself. You’ll become obnoxious and brag about yourself
Love comes from others, not self
I will be happy and love myself when, I get all A’s, I have the right partner, get the right job, etc.
People, including me, are basically bad, selfish, cruel, stupid, untrustworthy, sinful or foolish
The world is an unsafe place
There’s not enough ________ (love, money, happiness, food, etc.)to go around
Life is pain, suffering, and hard work, it’s not meant to be fun
I don’t have control over what happens to me, I’m powerless to do anything about my life or the state of the world
Love is dangerous, I might get hurt

14. “The most powerful thing you can do (and it is very powerful) to change the world is to change your own beliefs about the nature of life, people (especially yourself) and reality, and begin to act accordingly.”
Shakti Gawain

15. Thoughts to remember
If you don’t want to do it, become it, be it then don’t talk about it
Know your power, believe in yourself, and keep your core strong and safe