1. Anger Management Skills

2. Does everybody experience anger?
Everybody gets angry. That is okay. You’re going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act is up to you. And that matters, because how you act leads to consequences.

3. Objectives: 1. Identify your anger triggers 2. Know your anger cues
3. Know your anger style
4. Deal with your anger effectively

4. TRIGGERS What bugs you? Something that happens that makes you angry
What triggers you does not always trigger someone else.

5. not at all angry somewhat angry very angry
1. You have the highest average on social studies tests, but when report cards are handed out, the teacher gives someone else a higher grade than you because he participates in class more than you do.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

6. 2. Your brother bumps your arm while you reach for something at the dinner table, and you knock over a pitcher. The pitcher breaks and you get blamed.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

7. 3. Your best friend has a secret that she tells to two other friends but not to you.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

8. 4. A classmate spills juice on your homework and the teacher says it’s too sloppy to hand in.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

9. 5. One of your friends is so bossy that she insists on telling you who to invite to your birthday party.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

10. 6. A kid in the park insults your best friend.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

11. 7. Someone in your class spreads a rumor about you.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

12. 8. Your older sister keeps interrupting you when you’re trying to tell your mom something.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

13. 9. You tell a friend a secret and then learn he has told it to others.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

14. 10. You let your brother borrow your new digital watch, and the next day he doesn’t let you use his video game.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

15. 11. At the pizza place, you have to wait ten minutes before your order is taken because the man behind the counter has served two people who came in after you.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

16. 12. You’re crossing the street and a car honks at you as if you’ve done something wrong, but you have the right of way.
not at all angry
somewhat angry
very angry

17. MAKE A LIST If you know your anger triggers, then you can either:
1. Try to avoid them
2. Learn how to deal with them.

18. Your body sends you signals, when you’re getting angry.
ANGER CUES
Clenched fist
Loud voice
Your body sends you signals, when you’re getting angry.
Red face
Racing & pounding heartbeat
Upset stomach
Sweat

19. Complete the Checklist
What are your anger cues?

20. What’s your anger style?
When your anger is triggered, you’re going to react in some way. The way you react is called your ANGER STYLE.
Dumping
Acting Out
Burying

21. ACTING OUT Easiest to recognize
It’s when you strike out at the person you are mad at: physically or verbally.
YOU’RE OUT OF CONTROL!!!!

22. You get in trouble Problem is not solved
Consequences
You get in trouble
Problem is not solved

23. DUMPING DISPLACED ANGER
Shifting your feelings to someone you feel it’s safe to be mad at.
Ex. Guy gets mad at his boss, comes home & yells at his wife, who yells at the kids, who kick the dog!!

24. Consequences
You hurt innocent people
Problem is not solved

25. BURYING (ignoring)
When you hold your anger down inside yourself because you think it isn’t nice to have those feelings.
Denying your angry isn’t dealing with it.
It can come out in other ways: headaches, stomachaches, anxious, depressed
One day you might explode!!

26. Consequences You hurt yourself You may hurt others when you EXPLODE
Problem is not solved

27. DEALING WITH ANGER
When you find yourself angry, REMEMBER the only behavior you can manage is YOUR own!!!
So, pay attention to your anger cues.
And, if you feel like you’re going to lose it…

28. Imagine you are in a peaceful place.
Get a grip!!!
1. Cool off, stay calm.
Walk away
Count to 10
Take deep breaths
Use calming self-talk: “I can handle this. Chill. It’s not as bad as it seems.”
Imagine you are in a peaceful place.

29. 2. Give yourself some time to sort things out.
Write the problem down on paper.
Think it through. Ask yourself: what really happened? How was I triggered? What were my cues.
Talk it over with a friend or adult you trust.

30. 3. Turn your angry energy into a change for the better.
Tell the person making you angry how you feel.
Channel your angry energy into a physical activity.
Try to solve the problem.
Try to accept situations you can’t change.

31. The difference comes in what you do about it.
EVERYBODY GETS ANGRY
That’s just how it is.
The difference comes in what you do about it.
SO:
GET A GRIP!!!