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2. The Role of the Parents, Part 2 Colossians 3:21 & Selected
Colossians 3:21 is an additional specific command to parents founded on the commands of verses 1-20
Parents are responsible to raise their children –
others can only help with that responsibility

3. The Role of the Parents, Part 2 Colossians 3:21 & Selected
Children will follow the parents’ example, be sure your example is good
The proof of good parenting will be the child
God requires children to obey their parents, so parents must also require it
the first time, right away, happy face

4. The Role of the Parents, Part 2 Colossians 3:21 & Selected
The parent and the child are responsible for their own sin and failures, not for that of the other
The solution for guilt is confession and forgiveness

5. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
Due to their superior position, it is easy for a parent to become authoritarian and arbitrary with their kids
Exasperation (ejreqivzw / erethizô) = to stir up, stimulate, provoke

6. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
Lose heart (ajqumevw / athumeô) = the negation of spirit, courage
This negative stimulation will often at first cause anger (Ephesians 6:4) but eventually it disheartens

7. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
1) Abuse: Physical and verbal - Anger breeds anger - Proverbs 30:33; 15:1; James 1:20
Child abuse occurs when anger strikes out either physically or verbally

8. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
2) Inconsistency - The rules keep changing according to the parent’s whim
Inconsistency causes frustration which in turn leads to anger and then eventually to disheartenment

9. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
3) Parental Selfishness - The self centered parent treats the child as an intrusion into their life
Young children become angry at parental neglect, older children become indifferent

10. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
4) Favoritism - showing preference for one child while being unfair to the others
The anger and rivalry between Jacob and Esau was caused by the favoritism of their parents

11. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
5) Excessive Expectations and Discouragement - demanding more than the child is capable
Allow time for the child to develop skills
Every child is different in innate abilities and the rate at which they develop and learn

12. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
5) Excessive Expectations & Discouragement
Compliment, but don’t feed the pride of the superior child and don’t let them rest on their laurels
Compliment and encourage the slower child to do their best whatever that may be

13. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
5) Excessive Expectations & Discouragement
The goal character development, not gaining skills and learning lessons within some set time frame

14. Prohibitions on Parents Colossians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4
6) Using affection to manipulate - making your love conditional will destroy your children
Like God, love them even when they sin, and correct them out of that love (Hebrews 12:6- 8)
When you realize you have provoked or exasperated your child, confess it and reconcile with them

15. Prescriptions on Parents Ephesians 6:4
Bring them up, (ejktrevfw / ektrephô) = the ongoing action of feeding, providing, nurturing a child
Discipline, (paideiva / paideia) = training a child with both the negative and positive aspects of teaching

16. Prescriptions on Parents Ephesians 6:4
Deuteronomy 6:4 - a succinct summation of priority of all of God’s laws
Deuteronomy 6:5-7 - the method by which parents are to train their children to love God

17. Prescriptions on Parents Ephesians 6:4
Instruction, (nouqesiva / nouthesia) = emphasis on the mental aspects of teaching - "to set in mind."
It teaches know how to live with God and man - Proverbs 1:2-6
This includes instructive correction that is given without provoking or embittering the child

18. Prescriptions on Parents Ephesians 6:4
Of the Lord - the primary task of parents is to know, love and walk with God
2 Timothy 3: Use the Scriptures to teach, reprove, correct and instruct on the path of life

19. Conclusion
Commit yourself to bringing up your children in this manner and they will be a blessing to you & others

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