1. Today Write/pair/share exercise
Group discussions of gender and aggression
Media example for Simmons
Explain Simmons and female aggression
Summary
Media example for Kuiper
Explain Kuiper and male aggression
Preview

2. Write/pair/share
Make a list of 5+ comments that either you or someone you know made to push other members of your social group to behave appropriately.
Pair up with someone you’ve never paired with before and share your answers
Are these similar to the strategies Simmons or Kuiper describe?

3. Explain to an alien Ideal female Ideal male Anti-ideal female
Anti-ideal male
What would they look like, what do they do, what skills they have, personality traits, etc

4. Group Discussion
Women: Circle your desks and discuss the Simmons article.
What does it mean to “think you’re all that”?
Talk about how girls in the article disciplined other girls.
What other articles does this one remind you of?
Give examples of this kind of behavior from your own life.
Men: Circle your desks and discuss the Kuiper article.
How did the volleyball and rugby teams create solidarity?
Talk about how the rugby players in the article disciplined other players.

5. Aggression in Girls
Women: Explain the ways women and girls keep each other in line to the men. Provide examples from your own experience.

6. The Ideal Girl
“Contemporary feminist research shows that our culture continues to pressure girls to be chaste, quiet, thin, and giving, denying the desire for sexual pleasure, voice, food, and self-interest” (300).

7. The Ideal Girl
“Contemporary feminist research shows that our culture continues to pressure girls to be chaste, quiet, thin, and giving, denying the desire for sexual pleasure, voice, food, and self-interest” (300).

8. Simmons Summary
Girls maintain the boundaries of acceptable feminine behavior through indirect forms of aggression such as exclusion and code words (“She thinks she’s all that,” “flirt,” and “I’m so fat.”)
The ideal girl is physically perfect, indirect, manipulative, other-related.
The anti-girl is mean, opinionated, pushy, direct, not in control of her emotions, smart, opinionated, artsy, professional, and full of sexual desire.
Our culture stigmatizes women who stand out, and girls reinforce this by disciplining one another.

9. Aggression in Guys
Men: Explain the ways men and boys keep each other in line to the women. Provide examples from your own experience.

10. Why “cunt,” “wanker,” and “get a great dog up in you”?
What do these terms of humiliation have in common?
What can they tell us about the shared values of these men?
Do we in the US use similar terms or have similar values?

11. Key Terms in Kuiper Negative face Positive face Coercion Humiliation
Freedom of action and freedom from imposition.
Positive face
“The positive consistent self image or ‘personality’ (crucially including the desire that this self image be appreciated and approved of)” (289)
In other words, the image you put out there for other people to see and understand
Coercion
An act that threatens negative face
Humiliation
An act that threatens positive face
Politeness strategies mitigate face-threatening acts.

12. Kuiper Summary
Kuiper shows us how male solidarity is constructed in two different ways in New Zealand sports teams.
Volleyball players devised verbal ways of saving one another’s face when they made mistakes, thus making the team a fun and less risky group to play with.
Rugby players used sexually humiliating language to damage one another’s face. Solidarity is created out of the fear of future humiliation. If you mess up on the field, your teammates will humiliate you.

13. Preview Garot, “Inner-City Teens and Face-Work”
Key terms: face-work, the code of the street, et cetera clause
Learn the four moves of face-saving practices
Gray, “Boundary Publics”
Key terms: boundary public, identity work
Think about how you use public spaces. Do you always use them in the ways you’re “supposed” to?