1. Let’s Talk about…Sex

2. What is Sex?
What is Sex
Sex is a small word with a lot of different meanings
Sex can be pleasure from genitals, brain, emotions, skin
Different types of sex:
Vagina/penis sex; vagina/vagina sex; penis/anus sex; oral sex...
You get to decide what sex means to you
Sex should start with talking about readiness, consent, comfort, interests, limits and boundaries

3. Why do teens have sex?
Create a list with your group why teens have sex, and why teens may choose not to have sex

4. Why do teens have sex? Ready & want to In love Want to have a baby
Feel good
Keep partners
Peer pressure
Using drugs/alcohol
Horny
Gain status
Rebel against authority

5. Why teens choose not to have sex
Are too busy
Don’t want to/not interested
Not ready
Worried about getting pregnant/STI
Poor body image
Not in a relationship
Had a negative past experience
Against their values/beliefs
Partner doesn’t want to
May interfere with their future goals
Worried parents may find out
Worried it may hurt their reputation

6. Before Sex
Before sex happens, it is a good idea to talk about a few things
With your group, create a list of things people should discuss before having sex

7. 1. Consent Consent is another way of saying permission
Before sex or even touching, you have to hear that person say that they are into it with a “yes” or “right on”
Keep in mind, anyone has the right to say “no” or change their mind at anytime
People cannot give consent if they are drunk or high

8. 2. Limits & Boundaries
People have different expectation when it comes to sex
Talking about limits and boundaries before can help you know what both people are comfortable with
Can also help you decide if you want to have sex with that person
Examples
What are people okay with when it comes to kissing, touching?
Is your partner comfortable with having sex?
Is your partner okay with daring other people?

9. Birth control
Important to talk about why types of birth control you want to use to protect against pregnancy and STI’s
Many different types of birth control (which we will talk about in class)

10. Going to get tested Talk about getting tested
Get tested by seeing your doctor or at any teen clinic alone, together, or with a friend
Where Can you get tested?
Teen Clinic

11. Teen clinic Things you can get at a teen clinic Free condoms
Free or low cost birth control
Counselling
Pregnancy, STI & HIV tests
Information about all birth control options
Counselling to all 3 legal pregnancy options
Access to a doctor or nurse for any health issues that you need totalk about or get checkout out
Do not have to provide a health card or your name

12. What if pregnancy Happens
Using birth control properly can greatly decrease your chances of getting pregnant, only abstinence (not having sex) is guaranteed to work 100% of the time
Before sex it is important to talk about options
Abortion, adoption, parenting

13. Laws around sex The age of consent for sexual activity is 16 years.
They can legally consent to sexual activity
Can say yes to anyone
Are there exceptions?
The Criminal Code provides "close in age" or "peer group" exceptions.
14-15 year olds can consent to sex with someone less than five years older than them*
12-13 can consent to sex with someone who is less than 2 years older than them*
*Even at these ages, someone under 18 cannot have sex with someone in a position of authority (like a teacher, coach or babysitter).
No one can get take advantage of or exploited

14. How do you know if you are ready for sex?
Talking with your partner
Understanding what each other others expectations are
limits/boundaries – what you would both like to try or not try
Clarifying what sex could mean in your relationship
Learning about and going to get birth control & protection
Figuring out what both of your values are concerning pregnancy
How do you feel about abortion? Parenting if pregnancy occurs
Going to get tested for an STI
Both of you should feel ready in order for it to be a good experience for both people

15. Sex & Values Here are some guidelines for identifying what you value:
Is this something that is important to you?
Would you feel good if people you respect knew that this was important to you?
Is this something you would stand by even if others made fun of you for it?
Does this fit in with your vision of who you are?

16. What are my values regarding sex
The following slides contain common statements thoughts and ideas surrounding teens and sex:
As we read through each statement, imagine your response in the form of a stop light:
Red: you disagree with the statement
Yellow: you are unsure
Green: you agree with the statement

17. Value #1
Having sex before marriage (or lifetime commitment) is wrong

18. Value #2
It is important for teenagers to know how to use birth control and practice safer sex (use condoms)

19. Value #3
My religion should play an important role in how I make decisions about sexual behavior

20. Value #4
The most important thing about sex is having fun

21. Value #5
It’s important to be in love with your partner before you have sex with him/her

22. Value #6
If two people are sexually attracted to each other , that’s all that is needed to have a good relationship

23. Value #7
There is too much pressure on teenagers to be sexually active

24. Value #8
There is too much pressure on teenagers not to be sexually active

25. Value #9
Most teenagers would be better off waiting until they are older before being sexually active

26. Value #10
It’s okay for teenagers to masterbate

27. Value #11
It’s ok for a pregnant teenager to choose to have an abortion, if that’s the best option for them

28. Journal Entry Which statements (if any) were hardest for you?
If your parents voted on these statements would their votes be similar or different from yours?
Identify one of the values you felt strongly about (whether you agreed or disagreed) and write a short paragraph about this.
* if you don’t want me to read please indicate*