1. Chapter 10
Sexuality & Gender

2. Relationships
Look at attraction through the P.I.E.S. model. Using Physiological Vs Psychological components.
P = Physical
I = Intellectual
E = Emotional
S = Social
Sexuality
Chemical (Physiological)
Psychological

3. P.I.E.S Model
Chemical
Responsible for 52% divorce rate
We choose our mate(s) through smell
Pheromones: natural body oils secreted through our skin & picked up by others
Perfume = Artificial Pheromones
1. Similarity
Like the same things (workout, movies, food, same sexual activities)
No Boundaries
Genetics have NO boundaries
Mother Nature wants you to procreate; she does not care who you hook-up with
Money, looks, color: does not matter
One-Night-Stands
Love is blinde
2. Proximity
We tend to be attracted to others geographically near us
“Absence does not make the heart grow fonder”
Physically
Men & women are different when selecting a mate
3. Characteristics
Find things you like about the individual (confident, hardworking, kind)
Opposites attract = myth
Bring Together
4. Rewards
What is mine is yours
Physical
Intellectual, Emotional, Social: Helps stay together

4. Men & Women Differ when Selecting a Mate
Externally
Internally
Women
Men
E (Emotional)
V (Visual)
T (Touch)
N (Nasal)
N (Nasal)
V (Visual)
E (Emotional)
T (Touch)

5. How Men & Women Differ Women Men
Men like to have sex first; talk second
Women like to talk first
Men are highly visual
Women are more emotional
Men are “physically” touchy feely
Women tend to put touch last
Men fall in love with what they “see”
Women have more at stake then men
Men are 75% testosterone & 25% estrogen
Women are 75% estrogen & 25% testosterone

6. Psychological Side How to Stay Together (4 C’s) 1. Communication
Be Upfront
Be Honest
Listen
2. Change
One has to be willing to change lifestyles
3. Compromise
Give & Take
Share
4. Commitment
Marriage or Union
Remember: You will always find others attractive and someone
will always find you attractive. This does not mean one always needs to take action on attraction.