1. PERSON TO PERSON Gizelle: of the Tulloch family

3. Person to Person One of the five relationship models
We have been looking at Petruska Clarkson’s five therapeutic relationship models. So far we have looked at The Working Alliance, Transference and Countertransference, The Developmentally needed/Reparenting relationship and today I will be presenting the Person to Person relationship.

4. Person to Person is also known as:
The “Real” therapeutic relationship
I-You or I-Thou relationship (not I-It) - Buber
Core conditions - Empathy, Congruence UPR - Rogers

5. Person to Person Definition
The Person to Person relationship is the dialogic relationship. It concerns the authentic humanness shared by client and therapist. (Clarkson)
Profound healing force which was deeply significant and unavoidable (Freud)
The foundation of building the interpersonal alliance between two people (Rogers)
The human to human relationship which is genuine, real and also the underlying foundation of all the five facets (Gizelle)

6. The Relationship Important beginning with non-verbal communication
Counselling and Psychotherapy relies on building a human connection with clients where a deep level of trust is established
Research has shown that it is significant for the client to experience the person to person relationship whatever modality the therapist is trained to use

7. The Relationship The core or a real emotional connection
Mutual participation in the process where each is changed by the other
The real person within the therapist is not totally excluded from the effect/influence of the conditions of therapy
When you find the person behind each others defences - Guntrip
A genuine experience of relationship centred around the hear and now - Fairbairn

8. Establishing Relationship
Poor relationship from the start will have repercussions for the rest of the relationship
Appropriate expectations
Organismic need to repair wounds from the past to enhance future growth, development and resilience.
Psychotherapists sense of authentic self based on past experiences and feedback
Luck element

9. Self-disclosure
Book: Client doesn’t know left from right. Therapist shows client scar on leg which they used as child to help them decide which side was left or right
Therapist judged it to be appropriate and timely to trust the client with a sense of shared personhood and became siblings in discovery
The moment was unforgettable, bonding person to person

10. Self-disclosure (con’t)
I thought it was inappropriate (Supervision)
Can display hostility or seductiveness
Therapist could have found another way to self-disclose (use hand they writes with to help them remember.)
Requires skills, knowledge and the greatest care as the potential for careless and destructive use is great.

11. Self-disclosure (con’t)
Some clients initiate self-dislosure which could mean they are cut off from their own needs
Greater self-disclosure is possible as the psychotherapy proceeds

12. Management Client may consider therapist as a friend
Client 1 - Final session passing time in session to say ‘bye’
Client 2 – Final session ending in developmentally needed stage which may happen outside therapy room

13. Management (con’t)
Separate whilst still in therapy, leave therapy in order to separate (could happen years later) or may separate with next therapeutic relationship
eg. Client wept when they realised the therapist was another human being - Could be experienced as a loss

14. Difficulties
To write about subtle levels of person to person relationship
Not easy to find examples of the subtle exchanges which makes it difficult to teach
Lack of training where person to person is concerned
Expectation with idea that we know what it is all about

15. Bibliography www.lifeforce-centre.co.uk www.counselling tutor.com
Clarkson,P The Therapeutic Relationship. Second Edition. Whurr Publishers. London: England.