1. Grace Fellowship Church Pastor/Teacher Jim Rickard www.GraceDoctrine.org Tuesday, March 12, 2013

2. 1 John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

3. Doxology Praise God, from whom all blessings flow; Praise Him, all creatures here below; Praise Him above, ye heavenly host; Praise Father, Son, and Holy Ghost.— Amen.

4. The Book of Proverbs Chapter 5 “Avoid the Adulterer”

5. Prov 5:3 Lips Dripping with Honey and Smoother than Oil!

6. Doctrine of Flattery: I. Definition: A Verbal Sin where you practice excessive, false or sycophantic complimenting and praise trying to arouse favorable attention towards yourself.

7. Flattery Related to: II. Arrogance Complex of Sins. III. Cosmic Evangelism. IV. The Men-Pleaser Syndrome. V. The Con-Artist. VI. False Teaching and Religion. VII. Conspiracy Theory. Flattery Related to: II. Arrogance Complex of Sins. III. Cosmic Evangelism. IV. The Men-Pleaser Syndrome. V. The Con-Artist. VI. False Teaching and Religion. VII. Conspiracy Theory.

8. VIII. Marriage and Flattery. There is no greater form of Impersonal Love than a woman respecting her husband.

9. Yet, when a woman stops cycling God’s Word and allows her Sin Nature to take over, she stops responding to her husband and instead begins reacting to him.

10. When the arrogance complex kicks in she is now highly vulnerable to flattery and the enticement of others, because she has imagined she deserves better things.

11. Gen 3:4-5, “The serpent said to the woman, ‘You surely will not die! 5 For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil’.”

12. When that happens she is highly vulnerable to the first man that comes along that says a few good things about her.

13. As a protection for both the woman and the man, God commands the woman to respect her husband, and the husband to love his wife. Eph 5:22-28

14. When a wife does not respect her husband she is tempting his arrogance complex of sins to desire respect in some form, which could lead him to seek out another who will respect him.

15. When the husband does not love his wife he is tempting her arrogance complex of sins that makes her vulnerable to the flattery of other men.

16. No man can force a woman to love him by flattery unless she has reacted to her husband in some negative way and has made herself vulnerable to the flattery of another.

17. Cf. Col 3:18-19; Titus 2:4-5; 1 Peter 3:1-9

18. IX. The Defense against Flattery.

19. A. Spiritually Immature Believers are Susceptible to Flattery. Prov 14:15, “The naive believes everything, but the prudent man considers his steps.”

20. “Naïve” – PETHIY, “Fool, stupid, empty headed, etc., people who are easily persuaded by flattery, delusion, deception and enticement.

21. These believers have no Bible Doctrine in their soul and they are usually easily trapped by the details of life.

22. Prov 8:5, “O naive ones, discern prudence; and, O fools, discern wisdom.”

23. The flatterer is one who preys on weaker vessels especially “the lonely ones.”

24. Loneliness is an invitation to the flatterer to take advantage of someone’s weakness.

25. Loneliness makes a person’s soul vulnerable, and what makes the soul vulnerable, makes the body vulnerable too.

26. B. Having Wisdom in your Soul gives you Discernment regarding Flattery.

27. Prov 2:10 ‑ 17 teaches that good decisions always result from having metabolized Bible doctrine in your soul, called CHOKMAH - wisdom.

28. Psa 119:103-104, “How sweet are Your words to my taste! Yes, sweeter than honey to my mouth! 104 From Your precepts I get understanding; therefore I hate every false way.”

29. Prov 2:16, “To deliver you from the strange woman, from the adulteress who flatters with her words.”

30. Prov 6:24, “To keep you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress.”

31. Wisdom should also give you strength to restrain yourself from gullibility and flattery, Eccl 7:21.

32. Wisdom is a filtering system that rejects flattery and the praise of men, and gives you the strength to keep from believing it.

33. 1. It gives you balance, Ecc 7:16-18.

34. 1. It gives you balance, Ecc 7:16-18. 2. Strength, Ecc 7:19.

35. 1. It gives you balance, Ecc 7:16-18. 2. Strength, Ecc 7:19. 3. Allows you to accept the imperfections of life, Ecc 7:20.

36. 4. It gives you the strength to overlook the faults of others.

37. 4. It gives you the strength to overlook the faults of others. 5. And, to restrain yourself from gullibility and flattery, Ecc 7:21.

38. 6. Wisdom gives you strength to resist criticism.

39. 6. Wisdom gives you strength to resist criticism. 7. It gives you insight.

40. 6. Wisdom gives you strength to resist criticism. 7. It gives you insight. 8. And, reveals the fact that intimate relationships are compelling but often not satisfying.

41. Psa 5:9, “There is nothing reliable in what they say; their inward part is destruction; their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue.”

42. Grace Fellowship Church Tuesday, March 12, 2013 Tape # 13-026 Proverbs Chapter 5 The Defense against Flattery Prov 5:3; 2:10-17; 14:15; Eccl 7:16-21; Eph 5:22-28 James H. Rickard Bible Ministries 2013