Methods and Behaviors of a Leader The Hands: Methods and Behaviors of a Leader Lead Like Jesus Session Four Debbie Ormonde, M.A

I have testimony weightier than that of John I have testimony weightier than that of John. For the very work that the Father has given me to finish, and which I am doing, testifies that the Father has sent me. John 5:36

The man who plants and the man who waters have one purpose, and each will be rewarded according to his own labor. 1 Corinthians 3:8

What ever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Colossians 3:23-24

Since you call on a Father who judges each man’s work impartially, live your lives as strangers here in reverent fear. 1 Peter 1:17

THE FOUR LEVELS OF CHANGE Knowledge Attitude Behavior Relational/Organizational behavior

? WHY IS CHANGE SO HARD?

The Seven Dynamics of Change: ONE You will feel awkward-ill at ease and self-conscious. Strategy: Tell people what expect and help them sustain the new behavior.

The Seven Dynamics of Change: TWO You will feel alone even if someone else is going through the same change. Strategy: Structure activities that create involvement. Help individuals work together.

The Seven Dynamics of Change: THREE You will think first about what you have to give up. Strategy: Focus on what you are going to gain. What God has for you.

The Seven Dynamics of Change: FOUR You can only handle so much change. Strategy: Set priorities, change one or two things at a time.

The Seven Dynamics of Change: FIVE You will be concerned that you don’t have enough resources (time, money, skills, etc.). Strategy: Encourage creative problem solving, discuss any needs and concerns. Remember God’s resources are unlimited.

The Seven Dynamics of Change: SIX You are at different levels of readiness for change. Strategy: Meet people where they are. Some people are risk takers and others take longer to feel secure.

The Seven Dynamics of Change: If the pressure to change is taken off, you will revert back to old behavior. Strategy: Keep focused on why the change was important.

Someone just starting out NOVICE Someone just starting out

The Way of the NOVICE: As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he had two brothers; Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fisherman. “Come, follow me.” Jesus said, and I will make you fishers of men. “At once they left their nets and followed him. Going on from there, he saw two brothers, James son of Zebedee and his brother John. They were in a boat with their father Zebedee, preparing their nets. Jesus called them, and immediately they left the boat and their father and followed him. Matthew 4:18-22

Instructions for a NOVICE These twelve Jesus sent out with the following instructions: “Do not go among the Gentiles or enter any town of Samaritans. Go rather to the lost sheep of Israel. As you go, preach the message: The kingdom of heaven is near. Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those who have leprosy, drive out demons. Freely you have received, freely you give. Do not take any gold or silver or copper in your belts; take no bag for journey, or extra tunic, or sandals or a staff; for the worker is worth his keep.” Matthew 10:5-10

APPRENTICE Someone in training.

The Way of the Apprentice: “Lord, have mercy on your son.” He said. “He has seizures and is suffering greatly. He often falls into the fire or into the water. I brought him to your disciples, but they could not heal him. “O unbelieving and perverse generation,” Jesus replied, how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with you? Bring the boy here to me. “Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of the boy, and he was healed from that moment. Matthew 17:15-18

Coaching for an APPRENTICE “…Bring the boy here to me,” Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of the boy, and he was healed from that moment. Then the disciples came to Jesus in private and asked, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?” He relied “Because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, “Move from here to there” and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you. Matthew 17:17-20

working independently. JOURNEYMAN Someone capable of working independently.

The Way of a JOURNEYMAN During the fourth watch of the night Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost” they said, and cried out in fear. But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” “Lord, if it’s you, “Peter replied. “tell me to come to you on the water. “Come,” he said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came to Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!” Matthew 14:25-30

Mentoring the JOURNEYMAN Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith, “he said, “why did you doubt?” Matthew 14:31

Some highly skilled and MASTER/TEACHER Some highly skilled and able to teach others.

The Way of the MASTER/TEACHER “Therefore let all Israel be assured of this: God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified, both Lord and Messiah.” When the people heard this, they were cut to the heart and said to Peter and the other apostles, “Brothers, what shall we do?”Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. Acts 2:36-38

Commissioning of a MASTER/TEACHER Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Matthew 28:18-20

A good apology STARTS with: TWO PARTS OF AN APOLOGY PART ONE A good apology STARTS with: PART TWO I’M SORRY

TWO PARTS OF AN APOLOGY PART ONE PART TWO A good apology STARTS with: Surrender, the focus on self and that YOU did something wrong. PART TWO I’M SORRY

TWO PARTS OF AN APOLOGY PART ONE PART TWO A good apology STARTS with: Surrender, the focus on self and that YOU did something wrong. PART TWO A good apology ENDS with: I’M SORRY

TWO PARTS OF AN APOLOGY PART ONE PART TWO A good apology STARTS with: Surrender, the focus on self and that YOU did something wrong. PART TWO A good apology ENDS with: Integrity, reach out to the other person. COMMIT not to repeat the actions. I’M SORRY