While sitting at lunch with your friends everyone starts making fun of another friend. How do you feel.. What do you do.. ◦ Join in.. ◦ Step in..
Pressure ◦ pushed toward making a certain choice. A Peer ◦ is someone in your own age group. Peer Pressure ◦ someone your own age, is pushing you toward making a certain choice
Spoken vs. Unspoken Spoken: Something said to you directly Unspoken: When you feel you are supposed to do something
Sometime the pressure we put on ourselves can be the hardest!!
Examples of Positive pressures Honor Roll Make a team/club Follow the rules Respect others Exercise groups Group Fitness Running group
Examples of Negative pressures Underage drinking/smoking Gossiping Stealing Fighting Bullying Ditching a friend
I …. … want to be accepted and liked by people my own age. … am afraid of being rejected … don’t want to lose a friend … want to appear grown up … don’t want to be made fun of … don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings … am not sure of what they really want … don’t know how to get out of the situation
PUT DOWN Insulting or name calling to make someone feel bad (Spoken Pressure)
REASONING Giving reasons to do something or why it would be OK (Spoken pressure)
REJECTION Threatening to leave someone out or end a friendship (spoken pressure)
THE HUDDLE A GROUP STANDS TOGETHER LAUGHING OR TALKING, WITH THEIR BACKS TO OTHERS (UNSPOKEN)
The EXAMPLE Popular kids simply buy or wear something, because they set an example, others want to follow (unspoken)
THE LOOK Kids who think they’re cool give a look that means: we’re cool, and you’re not” (Unspoken pressure)
S.T.O.P. Stay calm Tell why not Offer other ideas Promptly leave
“Everyone’s Doing it” “You’re wrong… I’m not doing it” “A real friend would do it” “A real friend wouldn't ask” “Are you afraid?” “No, just smart”
Aggressive: Overly forceful, pushy, hostile Passive Giving up, giving in, backing down, easy to persuade. Assertive Confidence and clearly stating your intentions