CRUISNG THROUGH LIFE? “MAP” OUT PRIORITIES Sharleen Smith Alabama Training Institute Auburn Montgomery Copyright ©, 2009 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

“MAP”PING OUT PRIORITIES Copyright ©, 2009 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

“M A P” M MIND A ACTIVITY P PEOPLE

MIND “MAP” STARTS WITH THE Copyright ©, 2009 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

ACTIVITY “MAP” CENTERS AROUND Copyright ©, 2009 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

PEOPLE “MAP” ENDS WITH Copyright ©, 2009 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

Where is your slice? SLICES MAY INCLUDE SLICES MAY INCLUDE: work sleep recreation/play spiritual development relaxation play hobby family matters finances leisure sports educational development Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

MIND Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

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Albert Ellis’ ABC Theory (A) You experience an event (B) You engage in self talk (C) You experience an emotion Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved A does not cause C B causes C

SELF TALK POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

It is an ABSOLUTE necessity... for people to love me and approve of me. for me to be perfect in all I undertake.

Dead End Thinking Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved Do you “awfulize”? Do you have a “shouldy” attitude? Do you have a “victim” mentality?

Decision Making Under Stress The greater the stress, the greater the likelihood that a decision-maker will choose a risky alternative. During crisis, the ability of a group to handle difficult tasks requiring intensely focused attention is decreased. The greater the stress, the greater the tendency to make a premature choice of alternatives for a correct response. The greater the stress, the less likely that individuals can tolerate "ambiguity". Under increasing stress, there is a decrease in productive thoughts and an increase in distracting thoughts. The greater the stress, the greater the distortion in perception of threat and poor judgment often occurs. The greater the fear, frustration and hostility aroused by a "crisis", the greater the tendency to aggression and escape behaviors. In a stressful situation (whether real or perceived stress), only immediate survival goals are considered. Long term considerations are sacrificed for short term goals.

Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved No Control Complete Control

ANIMALS stimulus response Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

YOU & I stimulus response CHOICE Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

TAKE RESPONSE - ABILITY Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved NEVER GIVE AWAY YOUR “CHOICE”

STRESS RELEIVERS for the MIND Laugh Encourage yourself Talk to a friend Believe in yourself Do not blame or complain Learn how to take control Know who you are Adapt healthily to your environment or leave

ACTIVITY Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

Time… Where does it go?

Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved  60 seconds in a minute,  60 minutes in an hour,  24 hours in a day,  168 hours in a week.  Time cannot be saved or stored.  It is not how much we have, but rather the way we use it. The bottom line is how well we use it.

THE HEART OF TIME MANAGEMENT IS MANAGEMENT OF YOURSELF.  Time management is more than just managing our time; it is managing ourselves in relation to time.  It is setting priorities and taking charge of your situation and time utilization.  It means changing those habits or activities that cause us to waste time.  It is being willing to experiment with different methods and ideas to enable you to find the best way to make maximum use of time. Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

THE HEART OF TIME MANAGEMENT IS MANAGEMENT OF YOURSELF. ESSENTIALLY EVERYTHING WE DO REQUIRES TIME. SOME EVENTS/ACTIVITIES ARE EXTERNALLY CONTROLLED: meetings, family obligations, work duties. OTHER ACTIVITIES ARE INTERNALLY CONTROLLED: chatting on the phone, commitment to a club or project, or just "messing around." Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

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HEALTHY HABITS Diet Exercise Sleep Play Faith Relaxation Finances Social Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

TIME WASTERS 1. Lack of daily planning 2. Telephone 3. Lack of priorities 4. Trying to do too much 5. Drop-in visitors 6. Ineffective delegation 7. Messy desk 8. Inability to say no 9. Meetings 10. Lack of deadlines

Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved TIME, ORGANIZATION, AND WORK 1.Use an scheduler, Vista pad or Outlook calendar. 2.Make and use to do lists everyday. This list is a reminder. 3.Set priorities. Categorize to do list tasks into high, medium and low priorities. 4.Divide large tasks into several smaller parts. Focus on a small task to complete one part at a time. 5.Regularly ask yourself "What is the best use of my time right now?" Do that task. 6.Anticipate deadlines and foreseeable high stress periods and plan. 7.Schedule time for breaks. It can be hard to stay focused when you're tired, restless or hungry. Get up and stretch or have a snack. Keep breaks to minutes as allowed. 8.Learn to say “no” when needed. Commit yourself only to those activities for which you have time. 9.Learn to say “later”. Postpone some phone calls and visits. 10.Take regular vacations.

PEOPLE Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

PEOPLE... respectful important nice teachable draining Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved

other PEOPLE issues Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved communication

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We have committed the golden rule to memory… now, let us commit it to life.

Copyright ©, 2007 AUM Alabama Training Institute, All Rights Reserved PRIORITIES? “MAP” IT OUT!