Thoughts & Feelings Positive Emotional Intelligence

How do thoughts feelings and behavior interact?

Penn Resiliency Project Taught students to identify negative thoughts and increase accuracy of those thoughts. Long term results in 15 studies with over 2,000 students: increased resilience / optimism decreased anxiety FOCUS: CASE STUDY

Penn Resiliency Project Why did it work?? Neuro-Plasticity Mindfulness Increased Optimism and Resilience

Penn Resiliency Project Success!! Modified for: Entire Schools Businesses Even towns – Adelaide, Australia – goal is to increased productivity, wellbeing and minimize mental illness. *Not successful in prisons or when implemented without training. FOCUS: CASE STUDY

Penn Resiliency Program Ongoing Takes 12 weeks. This class teach a portion in 3 weeks. How did they do it???

When problems happen, like a fight with a friend, getting in trouble at home, or a rude wet suit salesperson, we all talk to ourselves about what just happened. Beliefs and Thoughts

“Man, I can’t believe the haircut I got. He practically scalped me! I’m almost bald! How can I go to school like this? I’m going to be laughed at and it’s going to take months for me hair to look good again!”

How one Feels doesn’t come out of the blue and isn’t determined by what happens. Instead, it is what you say to yourself that causes problems to arise and makes you feel mad or sad or afraid. Once you can become more aware of your thoughts, you can stop them from triggering the feelings. More control over your beliefs = more happiness

A dversity – Just the facts: Who, What, When, Where A.You are walking to school and notice a group of kids whispering and pointing in your direction.

A dversity – Just the facts: Who, What, When, Where B eliefs or Thoughts as the Event occurs. A.You are walking to school and notice a group of kids whispering and pointing in your direction. B.You Think to yourself… ___________________________

A dversity – Just the facts: Who, What, When, Where B eliefs or Thoughts as the Event occurs. C onsequences What emotions and actions went with those Beliefs and Thoughts? A.You are walking to school and notice a group of kids whispering and pointing in your direction. B.You Think to yourself… A.You Feel….

A dversity – Just the facts: Who, What, When, Where B eliefs or Thoughts as the Event occurs. C onsequences What emotions and actions went with those Beliefs and Thoughts? A.Jill decides to surprise her friend by taking him to the movies. When she arrives at his house to pick him up, he is annoyed and says he can’t go because he has to finish his homework. B.Jill Thinks ______________________ C.Jill feels disappointed, goes home and does her best to avoid him.

A dversity – Just the facts: Who, What, When, Where B eliefs or Thoughts as the Event occurs. C onsequences What emotions and actions went with those Beliefs and Thoughts? A.Jill decides to surprise her friend by taking him to the movies. When she arrives at his house to pick him up, he is annoyed and says he can’t go because he has to finish his homework. B.Jill Thinks ______________________ A.Jill feels disappointed, but decides to treat herself to a movie in town with another friend.

“Why didn’t John invite me to his party? He’s in 2 of my classes and we have fun together. He must be mad at me, because everyone else got invited. Everybody is talking about it and I’m going to have to tell them that I’m not invited. I’m so embarrassed. I’m such a loser.”