Parenting the “NET” Generation: What makes our kids “click”? The answers – well kind of… Ask Me… Homework … Let’s review where we were… In OUR day… The Places they go and why… Some questions to start… More Questions… Presentation Intentions Today for our kids Presentation 1 Presentation 2

pptPlex Section Divider Let’s review where we were… The slides after this divider will be grouped into a section and given the label you type above. Feel free to move this slide to any position in the deck.

Our First Session What do we want for our kids? Questions??? When WE were young… Our Children’s NEEDS… Who are these Cyborgs? Why do they go online? What are the challenges? What are the opportunities? What do we do about it?

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What do we want for our kids? Love and Care Security Safety Healthy Freedom Esteem Confidence Social Skills Happiness Success Citizenship Integrity Education Social Responsibility

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Some Questions… How many of you have a personal profile online? Who has posted videos or pictures of themselves or their family online? Who here engages in IM? Texting? How many of you have an iPod/iPhone? Who plays video games?

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Learning Intentions To examine our children’s use of technology To increase your awareness of the potential challenges around technology use To provide you with support and resources to better understand these issues To encourage practical, proactive parenting strategies to maintain connections with your children

pptPlex Section Divider In OUR day… The slides after this divider will be grouped into a section and given the label you type above. Feel free to move this slide to any position in the deck.

Remember When… Life was a lot simpler when we were kids… Right???

The World has changed… Thomas Friedman “The World is Flat”

While we were busy growing up… The fall of the Berlin Wall, and the rise of the Windows PC Wiring – the dot com era Outsourcing Web 2.0 tools (move from passive retrieval of information to creating and sharing knowledge)

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For our children… Our children have never not known the Internet There has always been only one Germany DNA has always been admissible in court They are wireless, yet always connected

They have outgrown faxing as a means of communication “Google” has always been a verb Text messaging is their They have rarely mailed anything using a stamp The 4 th Screen

What are their needs? Even though the world has changed dramatically, our kids “needs” remain the same

Why do they go online/use technology? What needs does it meet? Fun Independence Communication Connection Adventure Creation Sense of Belonging Risk Being heard Identity

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The Places They Go?

Flow Theory - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi SKILLS CHALLENGES Apathy Worry Anxiety Arousal FLOW Control Relaxation Boredom

What do you want for your children…with technology SafetyBalanceHealthy screen time Digital Literacy Social/Digital Responsibility Positive Social NetworkingResponsible E- communication

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Possible Questions for me… How much technology should I allow my children use? What can I do about issues around ; msn; social networking? How do I prevent these issues from happening? How do I learn more about tech and the issues surrounding it’s use? How does this help my parenting?

Some more questions for YOU… Where is/are your computers in your home? Do you place limits on your Children’s computer use? Who has had a conversation with their child about Internet Safety or Cyberbullying? Who here has adopted family expectations for children around online/computer use?

pptPlex Section Divider The answers – well kind of… The slides after this divider will be grouped into a section and given the label you type above. Feel free to move this slide to any position in the deck.

What are WE going to do about it? Generate expectations (Proactive) Have the conversations and generate ownership Prompts (YouTube videos, case- based scenarios, teachable moments) Establish a response “plan” (Reactive) Be available to “support not punish” Preserve your attachment

Be Involved and connected… Get online… Communicate… Share… Interact… Play games… Watch… Create… Engage… …with THEM!

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Contact information and Resources Dave Sands or Site This is only the beginning…

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Homework… 1.Visit my Wiki page and look at 3 different articles/videos. 2.Go online and establish 3 new accounts on web 2.0 tools (e.g. Facebook, Club Penguin, MSN, Youtube, ePets, Twitter, WebKins, etc.). 3.Talk to your child/ren about one or more of these tools.

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Intentions To examine and engage in our children’s technology tools To increase competence around addressing the potential challenges these tools present To provide you with support and resources to better understand these challenges To encourage proactive strategies to maintain connections with and guide your children online

The MSN Messenger Club Penguin Facebook Youtube

MSN Messenger Instant Messenging (IM) Lingo Contacts History Family Live

Club Penguin Intro to Social Networking Intro to IM (Safe Chat) Safety Limits Parent Controls

Facebook What is a Social Network? What is a Friend? Privacy Settings Applications

Do’s and Don’ts DODON’T UnderstandBan MonitorControl ConnectIgnore EngageAvoid CommunicateDisregard

Contact information and Resources Dave Sands or Site This is only the beginning…