1 ICPS Training & Practice for Educators & Teachers #6 - Dialoguing

2 What is dialoguing? Parent/teacher guides the child in applying ICPS concepts to solve a real-life problem. Helps children try again if their first attempt to solve a problem fails. Helps children learn to cope with frustration when they don’t get what they want immediately. Dialoguing is a communication skill

3 Basic Principles of ICPS Dialoguing 1.Child and parent/teacher must identify the real problem. 2.Each must understand and deal with the problem. 3.Once the real problem is identified, the parent/teacher must not alter it to meet his/her own needs. 4. The child, not the parent/ teacher, must solve the problem. 5. The focus is on how the child thinks, not what he/she thinks.

4 We want to help children, parents and teachers “move up the ladder”

5 The ICPS Dialogue Ladder

6 ICPS Dialoguing Procedures The nature of the problem that arises will determine the exact procedures for dialoguing. Teachers do not need to memorize a set of specific questions. 5 basic principles guide ICPS dialoguing.

7 ICPS Dialoguing Procedures Child-Child Problems Teacher-Child Problems

8 When not to dialogue It is not possible or even necessary to dialogue every problem.  Always remove children from harm.  Sometimes a crying child just needs to cry or an angry child just needs to be angry.

9 Practice is Important Review: Vocabulary words Dialogue ladder Practice: Dialogue, Dialogue

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