Romance What should I do? Mental States Emotional States Physical States Altered States Atmosphere Senses Sensual Putting the kink in it Chapters

What should I do?

Mental A woman need to be mentally stimulated in order to acknowledge a man’s intention.

Emotional A woman wants to be emotionally stimulated.

Physical Sensual touch vs. sexual touch is an important distinction.

Altered Stated

Atmosphere Creating a romantic atmosphere can be simple or complex, depending on the mood.

Senses Stimulation of the senses can enhance romance. Smell Tactile Visual

Sensual Sensual touch vs. sexual touch can communicate romantic messages.

Timing Timing is important for romance

Putting the kink in it - The Basics Negotiation Pleasure and pain Spank me Tie me up, tie me down Candles can be fun D and S Tools of the trade Fetish Wear Physiology Too Much? Chapters

Negotiations In a vanilla relationship there are a lot of power struggles. During the “Scene” you must agree on who is “Dominant” and who is “Submissive”. The “Safe Word” must be established. The submissive drives the scene and can end it with a word.

Communication is key Communication is the key to any relationship. Communication of your fantasy and interests must be mutual. Communication of your fantasy and interests must be honest.

Pleasure and Pain Pleasure can be derived from some minor pain. Remember that if you can’t laugh while you’re playing, its too rough.

Spank me Spanking is a fine art. Warm up is necessary and desirable. Spanking can be fun!

Tie me up, Tie me down Bondage can be fun! Use smooth and sensual materials. – Silk Scarves – Smooth Rope Tie loosely, in a comfortable position, your partner should be able to “escape” with little effort.

Candles can be fun Pure paraffin candles – light colors Use at height Don’t light your partner on fire! Wax is hot, messy and a wonderful sensation!

D and S D = Dominant S = submissive The Dom(me) sets the scene, plans for it and seduces the sub. The sub drives the scene (see negotiation) and allows the Dom(me) to take control.

Out of the bedroom D and s is over when the scene is over. The normal relationship resumes outside of the bedroom. D and s is not to be abused, it is a mutual decision.

Tools of the trade There are many “tools” one can purchase on line for lots of money OR you can go to a hardware store and find plenty of “tools” Cane Clips Tape Paint stirring sticks Smooth rope cut by the foot

Fetish Wear Fetish wear can be expensive, but is fun! Corsets Gloves Boots Heels Stockings

Physiology

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