WHY MARRIAGES BREAK (And How to Fix Them)

God designed marriage to last a lifetime God designed marriage to last a lifetime Marriage is being devalued, defiled and destroyed by far too many Marriage is being devalued, defiled and destroyed by far too many 2

MARRIAGE BREAKDOWN “There are few guarantees in life. But if you’re looking for a guaranteed way to wreck your marriage, never forget the cardinal rule: Marriage is all about your own personal happiness!” “Marriage Breakdown” Dr. David Currie More blessed to give than to receive, Acts 20:35; 1 Cor. 13:4-8 3

MARRIAGE BREAKDOWN “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Heb. 13:4) “…lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God…” (2 Tim. 3:4) 4

MARRIAGE BREAKDOWN An oracle within my heart concerning the transgression of the wicked: There is no fear of God before his eyes. (Psalm 36:1) 5

Following taken from: Five Major Reasons for Marital Breakdown -“Growthtrac Marriage Minute” (Sunday, April ) -From Knight in Shining Armor: Discovering Your Lifelong Love by P.B. Wilson -Copyright ©1995 P.B. Wilson Harvest House Publishers 6

Listen more and talk less, Jas. 1:19-20 Listen more and talk less, Jas. 1: Avoid anger and enable understanding, Eph. 4: Avoid anger and enable understanding, Eph. 4: Don’t take each other for granted, S.S. 2:3; Gen. 2:23 (18) -Don’t take each other for granted, S.S. 2:3; Gen. 2:23 (18) Develop good communication skills, Prov. 15:1-2; 21:9, 19; 20:3 Develop good communication skills, Prov. 15:1-2; 21:9, 19; 20:3 7

Communication often fails here Communication often fails here -Money is a tool to help us, not a master to enslave us -Money is a tool to help us, not a master to enslave us -Contentment plus commitment to lasting treasures, 1 Tim. 6:6-10; Matt. 6: Contentment plus commitment to lasting treasures, 1 Tim. 6:6-10; Matt. 6:19-21 Common values, goals and expectations Common values, goals and expectations 8

God-given in marriage, Heb. 13:4 God-given in marriage, Heb. 13:4 - Purity, 1 Cor. 7:2 (1 Ths. 4:3-8) - Purity, 1 Cor. 7:2 (1 Ths. 4:3-8) -Propagation, Gen. 1: Propagation, Gen. 1: Fulfillment, 1 Cor. 7:3-5 (Prov. 5:19-20) 9

Leave and cleave is God’s arrangement for building new families Leave and cleave is God’s arrangement for building new families Friends who are not supportive of your marriage are hindrances – not true friends, 1 Cor. 15:33-34 (Prov. 25:19) Friends who are not supportive of your marriage are hindrances – not true friends, 1 Cor. 15:33-34 (Prov. 25:19) 10

Gives Satan an opening, Gen. 3:1-6 Gives Satan an opening, Gen. 3:1-6 -Sin’s deception is more easily recognized by the spiritually mature, Heb. 5:14 -Sin’s deception is more easily recognized by the spiritually mature, Heb. 5:14 -Adam did not lead, and Eve led her husband into sin, 1 Tim. 2: Adam did not lead, and Eve led her husband into sin, 1 Tim. 2:12-14 Grow up in Christ, Eph. 4:15 Grow up in Christ, Eph. 4:15 11

Marriage breaks down when sin rises up in our hearts and lives Marriage breaks down when sin rises up in our hearts and lives Our adversary wants to destroy our marriages! Our adversary wants to destroy our marriages! Be strong in the Lord and honor Him by loving your spouse, Eph. 5:28-31, 33 Be strong in the Lord and honor Him by loving your spouse, Eph. 5:28-31, 33 12