1. Godly Homes in An Ungodly World - 13
What About Singles?

2. Why speak of singles in a study about the home?
Because often, singles are seeking the right mate or considering the direction of their lives.
God’s word is to govern one’s life during this time

3. Being single is NOT wrong!
Nor is it a weakness or flaw in one’s character.
Heb. 13:4, “Marriage is honorable…” is not saying it is mandatory or the alternative is not honorable
Let us be careful before playing “matchmaker”!

4. Many singles in the Bible – Paul, Daniel, Jeremiah, Elijah, and Jesus.
The Bible and singles
Many singles in the Bible – Paul, Daniel, Jeremiah, Elijah, and Jesus.
Perhaps others including Timothy, Mary & Martha, etc.
We read of widows, indeed.

5. The Bible and singles
Matt. 19:12, “For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.”

6. The Bible and singles
1 Cor. 7:8, “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am.”
1 Cor. 7:32-35 – he who is unmarried cares about the things of the Lord. He can do more for Him

7. Why some are singles
Some are not ready to marry yet – making preparations
Some have not found the right person
Some don’t want to get married
Some have been made single
Some cannot marry – cf. Matt. 19:9, 1 Cor. 7:10-11

8. Dangers of the single lifestyle
The risk of loneliness
We were made to be with others cf. Gen. 2:18, Eccl. 4:9-12, Prov. 17:17, 18:24, etc.
Being lonely can lead to depression, desperation, bitterness, jealousy, etc.
WARNING: Don’t let loneliness lead you to the wrong mate!

9. Dangers of the single lifestyle
Potential for selfishness
Selfishness is always a sin - cf. 2 Tim. 3:1-5, Jas. 4:1-3
Prov. 18:1, “A man who isolates himself seeks his own desires; He rages against all wise judgment.”
We are commanded to care about others, cf. “one another”

10. Dangers of the single lifestyle
Sexual temptations
We live in a sensual society where fornication is not condemned.
1 Cor. 7:2-5, Marriage created to satisfy desires. Singles do NOT have this provision and are more likely to face such temptations
Fornication is NEVER acceptable to God! Don’t ever believe that God wants you to be happy more than He wants you to be holy and faithful! 1 Cor. 7:9

11. Living the single lifestyle
Accept your lot in life
Be content. Phil. 4:11-12, 1 Cor. 7:17-24
If you are single, by choice or lot, make the best of it!

12. Living the single lifestyle
Develop Spirituality
Seeking His kingdom first Rom. 8:5-6, Col. 3:1-2
Remember again 1 Cor. 7: You can live for the Lord

13. Living the single lifestyle
Associate with the godly
You still need friends – choose them wisely 1 Cor. 15:33, Prov. 13:20

14. Living the single lifestyle
Develop godly habits
Pray, study the Bible, assemble, etc. Seek to teach others. Cf. 1 Cor. 7:5 – the reason why husband and wife can be apart for awhile.

15. Living the single lifestyle
Do good for others
Nowhere does the Bible commend the isolated lifestyle.
Every Christian is to care about others – Jas. 1:27, Gal. 6:10, 5:13, etc.

16. Living the single lifestyle
Seek godly wisdom from others
You need to know where to get advice! Prov. 27:17

17. Living the single lifestyle
Eliminate at ALL costs, sexual temptations
You are still human. Without a spouse, be extremely vigilant to avoid all forms of temptation!
2 Tim. 2:22; 1 Cor. 6:18
Song of Solomon 2:7, “Do not stir or awaken love until it pleases.”

18. Whatever your lot in life…
Seek to fulfill it in Him!