LOVE ACTUALLY SUNDAY 8 TH FEBRUARY 2015

LOVE ACTUALLY  SUNDAY 8 TH FEBRUARY 2015 TAKE-AWAYS 1. LEARN HOW TO MAKE DIFFERENCES WORK 2. LEARN HOW TO FIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN 3. LEARN HOW TO SPEAK EACH OTHER’S LANGUAGES 4. LEARN HOW TO CHANGE TOGETHER

HOW DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT?

 We are attracted to people who have what we need…

HOW DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT? (1) PEOPLE  Enjoys people  Warm & lively  Open sincerity  Noisy  Cheerful

HOW DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT? (2) PASSION  Enjoys activity  Likes a challenge  Recognises opportunities  Focused

HOW DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT? (3) PEACE  Enjoys pleasant experiences  Has a dry sense of humour  Kind-hearted  Laid back

HOW DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT? (4) PERFECTION  Enjoys getting things right  Likes a challenge  Recognises problems  Dependable

Genesis 2:20-24 But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.

Genesis 2:20-24 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

Genesis 2:20-24 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

HOW DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT? THEY MEET WANTS

HOW CAN YOU FIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN?

noun The definition of a conflict is a fight or disagreement. An example of conflict is an argument over parenting styles. verb Conflict means to clash with someone or something. An example of conflict is to disagree with someone over opposite opinions.

HOW CAN YOU FIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN?  Take man and a woman from totally different homes with different upbringing and experiences  Each with emotional uniqueness with different likes and dislikes

HOW CAN YOU FIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN?  Each with some degree of independence and with some self-centeredness  Living in the same house with different tasks and responsibilities

HOW CAN YOU FIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN?  Working from the same household budget trying to meet the same goals  Will they agree on everything?  No way!

James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry

HOWCANYOUFIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN?

HOW CAN YOU FIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN? FOCUS ON PROBLEM

HOW CAN YOU SPEAK EACH OTHER’S LANGUAGES?

1 Corinthians 14:10 Undoubtedly there are all sorts of languages in the world, yet none of them is without meaning.

HOW CAN YOU SPEAK EACH OTHER’S LANGUAGES?

HOW CAN YOU SPEAK EACH OTHER’S LANGUAGES? LISTEN!

HOW CAN WE CHANGE FOR THE BETTER?

 Men want the woman they marry to never change…  Woman want to change their man into the person they would like him to be…  BUT … the only constant is CHANGE

HOW CAN WE CHANGE FOR THE BETTER?  DEPENDENCE: LOOKING TO ONE ANOTHER TO MEET NEEDS / WANTS  INDEPENDENCE: LOOKING ELSEWHERE TO MEET NEEDS / WANTS  INTERDEPENDENCE: RECOGNISING GOD MEETS ALL OF OUR NEEDS -> SOME NEEDS ARE MET THROUGH OUR SPOUSE / FRIENDS

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

HOW CAN WE CHANGE FOR THE BETTER? BE THE CHANGE + PRAY

LOVE ACTUALLY  SUNDAY 8 TH FEBRUARY 2015 TAKE-AWAYS 1. LEARN HOW TO MAKE DIFFERENCES WORK 2. LEARN HOW TO FIGHT LIKE A CHRISTIAN 3. LEARN HOW TO SPEAK EACH OTHER’S LANGUAGES 4. LEARN HOW TO CHANGE TOGETHER

LOVE ACTUALLY  SUNDAY 8 TH FEBRUARY 2015 ACTION POINTS 1. EXPRESS GENUINE APPRECIATION REGULARLY 2. ESTABLISH RULES 3. LISTEN & LEARN 4. BE THE CHANGE

LOVE ACTUALLY

SUNDAY 8 TH FEBRUARY 2015