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Promoting Positive Behaviors and Attitudes All students are unique and with a positive outlook, you report the following patterns of thriving behavior : All students are unique and with a positive outlook, you report the following patterns of thriving behavior : Leadership Leadership Maintaining Good Health Maintaining Good Health Respect Differences Respect Differences Succeeding in School Succeeding in School

Your Beliefs Things a caring group, especially school, can add to your own confidence. Things a caring group, especially school, can add to your own confidence. Some examples are: Knowledge POSITIVE VALUES SOCIAL Friends Self Esteem Self Esteem

Everyone Tries to Label You Fitting In is Very Important Fitting In is Very Important Peer pressure is Constant Peer pressure is Constant You are Self Conscious You are Self Conscious May Be Shy May Be Shy Some teens want to Stand out Some teens want to Stand out Time when you are Trying new things Time when you are Trying new things Baggage

The Classic Message Safer Sex ABC... Abstinence Abstinence Be in the KNOW Be in the KNOW Condoms Condoms

N O How they are spread SEXUAL CONSENT What are they? RISKS STIs Prevention Testing and Treatment K N O W K N O W L E D G E

Laws to Protect You What is legal age of Drinking? What is legal age of Drinking? What is the legal age to purchase cigarettes? What is the legal age to purchase cigarettes? What is Legal Consent? What is Legal Consent? What is Legal Age for Sex? What is Legal Age for Sex?

Laws are there to Protect you Immunizations prevent illness Immunizations prevent illness Personal confidence, motivation and knowledge allow you to act responsibly in all situations Personal confidence, motivation and knowledge allow you to act responsibly in all situations That is why laws exist for consent as well. That is why laws exist for consent as well.

Consent and the Law Sexual activity without consent is always a crime regardless of age. Sexual assault to a young person < 19 years old is reportable by a professional.

To consent to sexual activity means to agree freely To consent to sexual activity means to agree freely The Law requires that a person take reasonable steps to find out whether the other person is consenting The Law requires that a person take reasonable steps to find out whether the other person is consenting Consent is voluntary agreement. This means that two people agree to do certain things of their own free will.

Legal consent means saying “Yes” because you want to say “Yes” Legal consent means saying “Yes” because you want to say “Yes” A person who agrees to anything because he or she is pressured, afraid, forced, or threatened has not legally consented. A person who agrees to anything because he or she is pressured, afraid, forced, or threatened has not legally consented. This is because you have not voluntarily agreed to any activity. This is because you have not voluntarily agreed to any activity.

Age when teens can make their own decisions about sexual activity Age when teens can make their own decisions about sexual activity In Canada –the age was recently changed from 14 to 16- with some exceptions In Canada –the age was recently changed from 14 to 16- with some exceptions 12 & 13 year olds can consent to have sex with youth who are less than 2 years older than themselves 12 & 13 year olds can consent to have sex with youth who are less than 2 years older than themselves Youth age are able to consent with partners who are less than 5 years older Youth age are able to consent with partners who are less than 5 years older

A child under age 12 can NEVER give legal consent to sexual activity. A child under age 12 can NEVER give legal consent to sexual activity. There can be no legal consent when a person is drunk, drugged, asleep, or passed out There can be no legal consent when a person is drunk, drugged, asleep, or passed out Someone under age 18 cannot legally consent to have sex with a person in a position of authority such as a teacher, health care provider, coach, minister, family member Someone under age 18 cannot legally consent to have sex with a person in a position of authority such as a teacher, health care provider, coach, minister, family member There are times when consent is NOT legally possible

NO always means NO STOP always means STOP If someone says NO and you do not stop, You are committing a crime

You can show by words or actions that you do not give consent You can show by words or actions that you do not give consent Examples- struggling, Examples- struggling, pushing away, shaking head, trying to leave NO! NO!

Even if you did not resist – the attacker cannot say you consented Even if you did not resist – the attacker cannot say you consented The law does not consider that you freely agreed just because you did not struggle or resist The law does not consider that you freely agreed just because you did not struggle or resist

Tell the other person what is OKAY and what isn’t Say No when you mean no Say STOP when you mean stop If you say nothing – your partner might think everything is OK and you want to go further OK NO WHAT does she want?

Your responsibility to ask your partner if what you are you doing is OKAY Your responsibility to ask your partner if what you are you doing is OKAY If your partner does not say “yes”, If your partner does not say “yes”, then STOP then STOP SILENCE does not mean consent !

Be careful what you drink Be careful what you drink Drink only from bottles Drink only from bottles or cans that you buy or open yourself Keep your drink with you Keep your drink with you Don’t share or trade drinks Don’t share or trade drinks Protect Yourself and Others when at a Party.

GO to parties with friends GO to parties with friends Arrive together & leave together Arrive together & leave together Look out for one another Look out for one another If a friend seems drunk, dizzy, or confused – STAY with them If a friend seems drunk, dizzy, or confused – STAY with them Take them home or get help if they need it Take them home or get help if they need it

Drugs and alcohol are often involved in sexual assault Drugs and alcohol are often involved in sexual assault No one can consent to sex while drunk, No one can consent to sex while drunk, drugged, or unconscious Know where you are, where you’re going, Know where you are, where you’re going, And always have a way home.

If you feel like you are being pressured, you are ! If you feel like you are being pressured, you are ! TRUST your feelings and LEAVE TRUST your feelings and LEAVE As soon as you feel uncomfortable at a party or anywhere else – As soon as you feel uncomfortable at a party or anywhere else – trust your instincts and leave! trust your instincts and leave! Find a friend to leave with you Find a friend to leave with you Or call someone to come get you Or call someone to come get you

Abstinence Choosing not to have sexual intercourse (personal choice) You can still:  kiss  caress  masturbate  hold hands  enjoy activities together EFFECTIVENESS : 100%