Asexuals: Who are they, and why should you care? A presentation by Tristan Miller
A bit about Tristan I’m a physics PhD student at UC Berkeley I’m supposed to be some sort of asexual activist, but I mostly just write stuff on the internet.
Outline Asexuality 101 A model of orientation Asexuals speak! Q & A Asexuals, society, and you Group discussion
Asexual: A person who does not experience sexual attraction
Attraction vs Behavior Asexuality is about attraction Celibacy is about behavior
Common responses Check your hormones You should try sex first Asexuality is for amoebas You should try sex first Have you considered that you’re gay?
Common responses You’re just trying to be special You’re a late bloomer But you behave sexually You were abused You just haven’t had me You got burned in a relationship You just can’t get any What’s the point of life then? You’re repressed Are you religious? You’re slut-shaming! You haven’t met the right person All women are like that
Common questions Do you masturbate? Some do, some don’t. Studies show that asexuals are almost as likely to masturbate as non-asexuals Do asexuals have romantic relationships? Some do! With other asexuals, or non-asexuals. Some don’t. Do asexuals have sex? Some do, some don’t. Asexuals may want, have, or enjoy sex. There are plenty of reasons to have sex besides sexual attraction.
Outline Asexuality 101 A model of orientation Asexuals speak! Q & A Asexuals, society, and you Group discussion
Asexuals, breaking models since 1948 The Kinsey Scale 1 2 3 4 5 6 Heterosexuals Homosexuals X Asexuals, breaking models since 1948
The Storms Model
The Double Storms model Sexual Orientation Romantic Orientation
But that’s not really enough Sexual Orientation Romantic Orientation
Outline Asexuality 101 A model of orientation Asexuals speak! Q & A Asexuals, society, and you Group discussion
Asexuals speak! Victoria (1:18-6:27) Southpaw (1:11-4:21) Me
Q&A Session 1
Outline Asexuality 101 A model of orientation Asexuals speak! Q & A Asexuals, society, and you Group discussion
(www.asexuality.org)
Coming Out as Asexual
“Political” opposition Sex-negative people… Sex-positive people… Sex experts, psychologists
Asexuals and the Alphabet Soup
A google image search of “gay pride”
Testimony from asexuals
Q&A Session 2
Discussion Questions How can you make your local LGBT group more welcoming to asexuals? What can asexuals contribute to the LGBTQ community? What can the LGBTQ community contribute to asexuals?
Thanks! Hot Pieces of Ace YouTube channel Contributors of testimony Western Regional All my supporters in the asexual community If you want a copy of this presentation, or other resources, please send requests to tristanmiller@berkeley.edu