Giving Your Children an Eternal Inheritance By MiXue

What is godly mothering?

What are you building into your children? (1Co 3:12) Now if any man builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw, (:13) each man's work will become evident; for the day will show it because it is to be revealed with fire, and the fire itself will test the quality of each man's work. (:14) If any man's work which he has built on it remains, he will receive a reward. (:15) If any man's work is burned up, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire.

Outline of Talk A. Different stages of a childs development, & their needs & their needs B. Your role & input: practical tips for what & how to teach C. Your own growth in the Lord

I. Infancy-babyhood (0-4) A. Stage : Total dependence, you control all input you control all input Need: to be prepared Need: to be prepared for the world for the world

Learn Obedience Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord.Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. (Col 3:20)

Obedience to you is a future building block As obedient children, do not be conformed to the former lusts which were yours in your ignorance, but like the Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves also in all your behavior; (1Pe 1:14-15)

Learn about consequences Disobedience has consequences Disobedience has consequences Lessons from mistakes Lessons from mistakes

Learn about respect Self-control towards others Self-control towards others

What if a child gets his own way? The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother. Prov 29:15 Prov 29:15

B. Your Role Trainer Surely I have composed and quieted my soul; like a weaned child rests against his mother, my soul is like a weaned child within me.Surely I have composed and quieted my soul; like a weaned child rests against his mother, my soul is like a weaned child within me. (Psa 131:2)

Enduring Input Train up a child in the wayTrain up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Prov 22:6)

Mother s Mandate: "Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the LORD is one! You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. Deut 6.4-7

Spiritual Input: This image may be subct to copyright.This image may be subct to copyright.

But when Jesus saw this, He was indignant and said to them, "Permit the children to come to Me; do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. "Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all. (Mar 10:14-15)

Spiritual legacy: For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well. (2Tim 1:5)

Sanctified Children Sanctified Children For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. (1Co 7:14)

C. Your own growth Finding contentment in the Ministry of Obscurity

II. Primary Schoolers - childhood (4-10) A. Stage: New Horizons Need: Expand Learning Need: Expand Learning

B. Your Role Teacher

Spiritual Input: Direct teachings about God Direct teachings about God

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Building Character

Receiving God s Calling for our family

Over-scheduled? Our schedule reveals our values

C. Your own growth Womens Bible Studies Womens Bible Studies Scripture Memory Scripture Memory

III.Middle Schoolers (10-13) pre-teens, pre-puberty A. Stage: transitioning to adulthood peers become pre-eminent peers become pre-eminent Need: room to grow Need: room to grow

B. Your Role Coach

Develop common interests Build bridges into their fast changing lives Build bridges into their fast changing lives What are they interested in? Why? What are they interested in? Why? Who are their friends? Who are their friends?

Spiritual Input: If you want to influence your children,If you want to influence your children, influence their friends.

C. Your own growth Mentoring other moms Mentoring other moms One Year Bible One Year Bible

IV. High Schoolers (14-18) Adolescence A. Stage: Developing own identity Need: more decision-making adult models adult models

B. Your Role Counselor

Spiritual Input: Family Time

Be an opportunist Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. (Eph 5:15-16) (Eph 5:15-16) So teach us to number our days, That we may present to You a heart of wisdom.So teach us to number our days, That we may present to You a heart of wisdom. (Psa 90:12)

C. Your own growth One Year Bible readings

V.College-agers (19-22) pre-adulthood A. Stage: Independence, focus on relationships (esp w/ opposite gender) Need: to be treated more like a peer

B. Your Role Mentor

Spiritual Input: Family Time (in different venues) Family Time (in different venues)

C. Your own growth

Mentoring Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. Titus 2:3-5

VI. Young Adulthood (23+) A. Stage : Job and Spouse Need: Help in the adult arena Need: Help in the adult arena

B. Your Role Be a Resource Be a Resource

Your spiritual input: Example Example

More caught than taught What can be taught? What must be caught?

Make Eternal Invests (Mat 6:19) "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. (:20) "But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; (:21) for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Make sure your investments are lasting

Well done, good and faithful servant. Well done, good and faithful servant.