5 Top 10 Marriage Myths

MARRIAGE STUDY Nominal Christians – 60% divorce rate Church attending Christians – 38% divorce rate Committed Christians – 30% or less Dr. B Wright, Univ. of Conn.

Myth #10 – Living together before marriage helps the relationship. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #10 – Living together before marriage helps the relationship.

Myth #9 – Have an affair to breathe new life into your marriage. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #9 – Have an affair to breathe new life into your marriage.

Myth #8 – Be prepared for sex to get boring. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #8 – Be prepared for sex to get boring.

Myth #7 – Keep your independence. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #7 – Keep your independence.

Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #6 – If your spouse really loves you he/she will know what you want/need.

Myth #5 – Keep the peace at all costs. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #5 – Keep the peace at all costs.

Myth #4 – Always say what’s on your mind. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #4 – Always say what’s on your mind.

Myth #3 – You can change your partner. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #3 – You can change your partner.

Myth #2 – A baby will bring you closer. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #2 – A baby will bring you closer.

Myth #1 – Love is all you need. Top 10 Marriage Myths Myth #1 – Love is all you need.

Elements of the Original Design Element #1 – The People Involved 18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” 19 Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. - Genesis 2:18-19

The man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him. - Genesis 2:20

21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. 22 The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. - Genesis 2:21-22

HELP / AZAR – To Surround, Protect, Aid MEET – Corresponding to man

Many Marriage Styles Group Marriages – Polygamy (Polyamory) Open Marriages – Swingers Gay Marriages – Same Sex Common Law Marriages – No Legal Commitment

Elements of the Original Design Element #1 – The People Involved Element #2 – The Covenant

“This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” - Genesis 2:23

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, - Genesis 2:24a

and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. - Genesis 2:24b

GOD’S DESIGN 1 Man + 1 Women Legal Covenant

Serves us emotionally Why This Design? He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the Lord. - Proverbs 18:22

B. Serves us physically / sexually Why This Design? B. Serves us physically / sexually For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24

C. Serves us spiritually Why This Design? C. Serves us spiritually God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” – Genesis 1:28

Remember: Unmarried → Use God’s Design Married → Go Back to God’s Design