challenging stereotypes Challenging stereotypes about Muslims: https://www.buzzfeed.com/safiyanygaard/im-muslim-but-im-not?utm_term=.dl9bxy3RY#.ua53rAevE

Exercise: STereotypes What are the differences between: Stereotypes Prejudice Discrimination Systemic Oppression/ Privilege (“isms”) Do Stereotypes exercise

Exercise: Stereotypes, cont. DEBRIEF:   What do you notice about the stereotypes listed? How do you feel when you face these stereotypes? Which professionals perpetuate stereotypes? Which social institutions perpetuate stereotypes? Do mental health institutions perpetuate stereotype?

Reflecting Feelings Go to slides

Analyzing thoughts and feelings in a conversation Read assignment description

Reflecting meaning Therapist and client identify the client's values and perspectives underlying the client's story. This helps the client see whether she/he/they have conflicting beliefs, actions, or feelings. This helps the client understand themselves more deeply and clarify the changes he/she/they wants to make.

Identifying Deeper meanings Deeper meanings are often embedded in strong feelings, including: Guilt Fear Anger Hopelessness Powerlessness Grief Low Self-Esteem Joy Desire Hope

Identifying meanings, 2 Deeper meanings are often experienced as conflicts with a) yourself, b) another person, or c) social values, including: Sources of shame Unmet needs Beliefs about morality Family, religious, and cultural values Beliefs about how others should behave Taboo desires

Identifying Meanings, 3 You are more able to identify deeper meanings if you: Practice a stance of openness to your client, and Maintain a curiosity about why the client’s story and feelings are especially important to him, her, or them. This requires you to: Stop yourself before you assume you understand, and Offer a tentative understanding and ask if you are correct.

Model for reflecting Meaning   It sounds like you feel ___________________________ (emotion word ) about ____________________________________________________ (fact or thought from story) because __________________________________________________. (deeper meaning) Is that right?

Model of reflecting meaning A therapist's statement of the client's "deeper meaning" can continue “Because…: you believe…" you value…" in your experience..." it’s really important to you that…" in your culture…“ you secretly hope…”

Reflecting Meaning Example Andreas came into his first session stating that he wanted to figure out whether to stay with his boyfriend. In the tenth session, he started telling you about yet another terrible argument they had and broke down in tears. Therapist reflecting meaning: “You seem so sad about your argument. I wonder if it is because you don’t know if you can save your relationship.”

settings where we grow Free write:Where are you respected? Loved? Helped? Safe? Made to feel like you belong? Where do you improve your skills? Grow and learn? Make money? Discuss in threes Big group discussion Share egs Are any of these places unique based on a shared identity like race, gender, ethnicity, religion, sexuality, disability? Female sports team, Orthodox Jewish youth group, Black Lives Matter activist group, LGBTQ club, etc.

intersectional Identities with Dee Watts-Jones https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eO8Q21HGjio QUESTIONS What is “intersectionality”? Does Dee Watts-Jones identify as African American, as a woman, as a middle class person, as a divorced person, or as a heterosexual? Which of her identities are a source of privilege? Which of her identities are a source of oppression?

‪Cracking the Codes: Joy DeGruy, "A Trip to the Grocery Store"‬ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wf9QBnPK6Yg Questions What happened? What do you think would have happened if her sister-in-law had not spoken up? Which person can you relate to in this scenario? Who has privilege in this scenario? What kinds? Who is facing discrimination or oppression? What kinds?

Quest for the Rainbow Bagel Preparing more for Map an Institution**CHANGE NAME Quest for a rainbow bagel! https://www.facebook.com/Upworthy/videos/1703627753011409/

Map an Institution in your daily life Pick an important institution in your daily life home/family; school; store; neighborhood; work; medical facility; religious institution; sports team, club, chorus, dance troupe; etc. Draw and describe how you are treated favorably or unfavorably by that institution. Include: how you are made to feel like you do or don’t belong; examples of being favored or discriminated against; the people involved; what you see, hear, smell, taste, touch; typical things that are said, assumptions and stereotypes; your feelings and bodily sensations; etc. In pairs, share your map and experiences

Assignment: map an institution in your daily life Read on website

Social Group Identities The tendency for people to categorize as an “ingroup” as opposed to an “outgroup” (Tajfel & Turner) These categories shape how we relate to each other based on perceptions of status and mobility. Certain social group identities have a big impact in our daily lives: race What others? class gender sexuality dis/ability immigration status

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