DATING VIOLENCE

STATE STANDARDS 7.3 Describe intellectual growth and development of adolescence. 7.4 Analyze necessary components of a healthy, safe and stimulating environment.

WARNING SIGNS Extreme jealousy Constant put-downs Telling the other person what to do Explosive temper Threats Possessiveness Preventing the other person from doing what he or she wants to do Severe mood swings Making false accusations about the other person History of violence Isolating the other person from family and friends Seeking financial control over the other person

DATING VIOLENCE Follow along as I read an excerpt from I Thought Things Would Change Excerpt

DATING VIOLENCE What do you think this excerpt is about?

DATING VIOLENCE What do you think the term teen dating violence mean to you?

DATING VIOLENCE Teen dating violence is a pattern of physically, sexually, verbally, and/or emotionally abusive behavior in a dating relationship.

DATING VIOLENCE What is Teen Dating Violence? handout

DATING VIOLENCE While many more adolescent females are physically abused by someone they are dating than males, teen males do experience dating violence. Dating violence affects people of all races, religions, cultures or sexual orientation regardless of how much money they have or the neighborhood they live in.

DATING VIOLENCE What forms of dating violence did Adaliz experience? How did Adaliz feel when Richard was being abusive to her? How does being abused by Richard affect Adalizs day-to-day life? What evidence of this can you find in the text?

DATING VIOLENCE Dating violence is never the fault of the person who is being abused. Nothing this person says, does, or wears caused the abuse or gives anyone the right to hurt her or him.

DATING VIOLENCE Over time, the abuse typically occurs more frequently and becomes more severe, leaving the target to feel that he or she has no option but to stay in the relationship. Some teenage abusers have been the target of domestic violence in their homes. This does not excuse the abuse, it can help to explain how some abusers come to believe that violence is acceptable in intimate relationships.

DATING VIOLENCE What are some of the effects of dating violence on the person who experiences the violence or abuse? Ex. Becoming depressed.

DATING VIOLENCE Roles of abuser, target, and bystander. Abuser: A person who physically, sexually, verbally, or emotionally hurts an intimate partner. Target: A person who is hurt physically, sexually, verbally, or emotionally by an intimate partner. Bystander: A person who is aware that someone is being abused in a dating relationship. The bystander may become aware of the abuse through the abusers or the targets action or words.

DATING VIOLENCE Bystanders dont have to be present when the abuser is hurting the target; they simply have to know the abuse. Although bystanders cannot rescue the target from the abuse, they can encourage him or her to talk to people who can provide help and guidance.

DATING VIOLENCE Who do you think is the target in I Thought Things Would Change Excerpt? Who do you think is the bystander?

DATING VIOLENCE Helping a Friend or Family Member Who Is Being Abused Handout After reviewing the handout, work with a partner to write a letter to Adaliz reaching out to help her.

DATING VIOLENCE Dating violence is a serious problem that affects everyone involved, whether they are abusers, targets, or bystanders. Video of a victim of dating violence.

ASSESSMENT What do you think makes it hard for Adaliz to end her relationship with Richard? Write your response to the questions.