SHRED THE LABEL,SAVE A CHILD NO SUCH THING AS A BULLY SHRED THE LABEL,SAVE A CHILD Kelly Karius & Dr. Ron Graham

Review of NSTAAB Language Change System Policy Move from control to collaboration - TIPS Does this consequence contribute to the restoration of a positive supportive climate to the school/camp? Partners

How NSTAAB Helps Creation of a system Lessons Website Policy Tips Community Immersions Train the Trainer Handouts – TIPS page aBeanstalk ad Tables of contents

What Camps Can Do consistency of expectations Encourage positivity Consistency of language Consistency of consequences Create policies for use of personal devices Focus on the restoration of positivity – Three R’s. **Suggestion Handout

Camp Lessons Conflict and Bullying Negotiation Feelings Friendship Skills Bullying & Being Bullied

Language Bully action/victim response “That’s not okay to say.” “That’s not okay to do.” “I am not comfortable with that.” “I need you to stop ___________ “ “It’s hurtful to say/do that.” “I need you to stop ____________.”

What is Cyberbullying*? Cyberbullying: Use of internet services for Deliberate, repeated, hostile behavior with the intention of harming another, by an individual or group. Trolling: “Trolling” is making inflammatory, anonymous statements on the Internet for the sole purpose of derailing an online discussion or provoking the other participants in the discussion. **although not directly related to camp, these issues are community based, and children between 10-12 are exposed. The more often they hear information that helps them cope, the more likely the will be able to. Cyberbullying is defined in legal glossaries as actions that use information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior by an individual or group, that is intended to harm another or others. use of communication technologies for the intention of harming another person use of internet service and mobile technologies such as web pages and discussion groups as well as instant messaging or SMS text messaging with the intention of harming another person. Examples of what constitutes cyberbullying include communications that seek to intimidate, control, manipulate, put down, falsely discredit, or humiliate the recipient. The actions are deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior intended to harm another. Cyberbullying has been defined by The National Crime Prevention Council: “When the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person."[1][2] A cyberbully may be a person whom the target knows or an online stranger. A cyberbully may be anonymous and may solicit involvement of other people online who do not even know the target. This is known as a 'digital pile-on.'[3]

Signs of Cyberbullying signs of emotional distress during or after using the Internet or the phone being very protective or secretive of their digital life withdrawal from friends and activities avoidance of school or group gatherings slipping grades and "acting out" in anger at home changes in mood, behavior, sleep, or appetite shutting down a social media site

Sexting Stats & Prevention Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages and/or photographs, primarily between mobile phones. 33% of youth aged 18-24 have sexted. 24% of youth aged 14-17 have sexted. 66% of girls and 60% of boys did it because it was fun and flirtatious. Teens who use cell phones as a dominant form of communication are more likely to send and receive sexts. **Monitoring, awareness and communication

Your suggestions You’ve heard about the lessons, and soon you’ll have copies of the lessons. As those on the front line, I know you’ll come up with better activities than me. Please share them, and we’ll include them in the lessons!

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Thank you Thank you for becoming part of this movement to change language and perceptions. Your willingness to learn and pass skills on to children creates hope in the world.