Dating

Stages of Dating – #1 Gushy Want to please each other Write name on everything Tend to like the same things May not tell the complete truth Need to touch & hug; physical Co-equals in relationship Never late Lots of kissing and talking on the phone Swollen lips from so much kissing Forget your friends Everything is funny

Stages of Dating – #2 Playing Games Swollen eyes from crying (girls) Crossed out name Lots of ups & downs Remembering your friends again Trying to get the other person to do something Jealous Power struggles

Stages of Dating – #3 Goal Directed Trust Like to see them do things w/ their friends Don’t paw all over each other Want to see each other happy More mature & real Can show each other the good and bad sides Looking to make a commitment

Stages of Dating You can move through all 3 stages Each couple will have their own speed You can skip stages or repeat them

Acceptance - receive with approval or favor 3 A’s of Emotional Needs Acceptance - receive with approval or favor Affection - fond attachment, devotion, or love Appreciation - gratitude; thankful recognition

It is much harder than sexual expression 3 A’s of Emotional Needs Love Language is The way one sends and receives messages of Acceptance, Affection, and Appreciation It is much harder than sexual expression

Dating Right of Ways Be Yourself An enjoyable, safe date Have your values respected Care for and protect your body Establish and protect your reputation Be free from guilt and fear Say “NO” Write 3 more dating rights you feel are important and that are not listed above

Purposes of Dating Socialization: Recreation: Mate Selection: To develop appropriate social skills To practive getting along with others in different settings  Recreation: To have fun and enjoy the companionship of others To try new and different activities Mate Selection: To see others in many different settings To compare the personality and characteristics of many people

Dating