Managing Stress and Coping with Loss Chapter 4: Sec 3 Coping with Loss Pp. 89-92
Objectives Describe the effects of loss. Name the stages of the grieving process. Describe how funerals, wakes, and memorial services help people cope with the loss of a loved one. Propose ways a person can cope with the loss of a loved one.
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Do Now Bell ringer Activity List as many different types of loss as you can think of: Give examples of the effects of loss:
Critical Thinking What is your interpretation of the statement listed below? Healthy children will not fear life, if their parents have integrity enough not to fear death. -Erik Erikson Why are we so afraid of death, and what causes us to die?
Attitudes Toward Death and Dying: Cultural and Age Variations Cultures around the world interpret and respond to death in widely different ways. Permanence Once a living thing dies, it cannot be brought back to life Universality All living things eventually die Nonfunctionality All living functions, including thought, movement, and vital signs end at death.
Grief: Lessons in Survival What do I do now that you’re gone? Well, when there’s nothing else going on, which is quite often, I sit in a corner and I cry until I am too numbed to feel. Paralyzed motionless for awhile, nothing moving inside or out. Then I think how much I miss you. Then I feel fear, pain, loneliness, desolation. Then I cry until I am too numbed to feel. Interesting pastime. -Peter McWilliams, How to Survive the Loss of a Love
The Grieving Process Grieve is to express sadness of a loss. The Five Stages of the Grieving Process Denial: “This can’t be happening to me!” Refuse to believe a loss has occurred Anger: “Why me? It’s not fair.” Rage or blame self and/or others for the loss Bargaining: “I ‘d do anything to have him back.” Make promises to change if the person they lost is returned to them/to avoid what is the truth Depression: “There is no hope. I’m so sad. I just want to be alone.” Feeling sadness when you experience loss Acceptance: “It’s going to be OK.” Begin to learn how to live with a loss
Check-In Candice recently broke up with her boyfriend, but she constantly leaves text messages on his phone in hope that he will take her back. Her last text message read, “I will do anything for you. You do not have to move in.” Which stage of the grieving process is this?
Types of Ceremonies Wake Funeral Memorial Service A ceremony to view or watch over the deceased person before the funeral. Funeral A ceremony in which a deceased person is buried or cremated. Memorial Service A ceremony to remember the deceased person.
Check-In Chris went to a ceremony with his friend Pat. The ceremony was celebratory and honored the teen victims of a fatal 2010 car crash. What type of ceremony was it?
Help for Dealing with a Loss Get plenty of rest and relaxation, but try to stick to any routines you kept before the loss. Share memories and thoughts about the deceased. Express your feelings by crying or by writing in a journal If the loss was unintentional, do not blame yourself or others.
Check-In What should you not do to when dealing with a loss? 1 = Write in a journal 2 = Share memories 3 = Blame yourself
Helping Others Show your support through simple actions, such as offering to run errands or cook a meal. Let the person know that you are there for him or her, and allow the person to talk about his or her thoughts and feelings. Tell the person that you have faith that he or she is strong and will learn to live with this loss. If the person seems depressed, avoids family and friends, or doesn’t seem to be making any progress, tell a trusted adult.
Check-In How you should help a someone deal with his/her loss? 1 = Tell him/her that “everybody dies!” 2 = Keep it a secret if they seem depressed. 3 = Be there for the person as needed
Closure List the five stages of grieving. What is the difference between a funeral and a memorial services? Explain how a wake, funeral, or memorial service can help with the grieving process.